Purple ice cream has OP seeing red. (np.reddit.com)
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267 comments submitted at 14:22:22 on Aug 26, 2014 by whatswrongwithchuck
Purple ice cream has OP seeing red. (np.reddit.com)
SubredditDrama
483 ups - 0 downs = 483 votes
267 comments submitted at 14:22:22 on Aug 26, 2014 by whatswrongwithchuck
Hey guys. I am the OP this thread concerns and I was both shocked and amused that my post and replies to some of the other users actually became the subject of a thread, so I thought I would join the discussion since it concerns me.
I have already been banned from the subreddit, and personally removed the ube ice cream post and the picture attached to it. I started out having good intentions, then got annoyed and snapped at a few people. I have trouble understanding why my use of colorful language is so upsetting and controversial to some of you, enough to warrant someone to create a thread about it, then people who read this thread to private message me telling me to kill myself, or find other things I've shared on this site to tear them down, or form other unflattering judgments of me here. You're elevating my exchange to the level of a Michael Richards, Mel Gibson, or Alec Baldwin tirade, which it isn't, then using it as an excuse to justify your hate and subjecting me to forms of personal harassment even after the post has been removed, which I don't exactly deserve.
Me telling someone to fuck off was just my way of saying "hey, don't give me a hard time, leave me alone, I'm just trying to share something positive here." Or "don't assume things you don't know." Yes, maybe I should have worded it better, and I apologize if it is truly upsetting or offensive to people, but I fail to see how this makes me the terrible person some of you are trying to make me out to be. I didn't make any hurtful personal attacks, I didn't threaten anyone, I didn't make a racist or discriminatory comment, and it didn't even seem to affect the very people I was telling to "fuck off". If anything one of them was obviously amused by it.
I fail to see what the big deal is. I'm just a defensive person who words things strongly, and has strong opinions about things. Please move on with your lives.
You overreacted. A lot. To a very benign statement. And then continued to harp on someone in an extremely condescending manner. And then you wouldn't drop it. In all respects, you've come off as a terrible person.
And now you appear to be trying to justify it as "I'm a defensive person". Like for some reason you think that the previous exchange is within the normal realm of human interaction, and your behavior happens to fall somewhere in there. You're overly defensive, and you use overly harsh language in very minor situations.
> Like for some reason you think that the previous exchange is within the normal realm of human interaction
For reddit?
Shit. More than "in the normal range," that exchange was practically the norm for reddit.
Well thanks for the honesty. I don't think you know what a terrible person actually is. I'm certainly not, but you've given me a lot to think about.
Ok, by "terrible" I don't mean you punt kittens, or spit on the homeless. You come off as terrible to interact with. Like a conversation with you, in person, would be a terrible ordeal.
But that's only through that one snippet, online. Maybe in person you're completely different, and a joy to be around. Maybe 99% of your other online interactions are totally friendly and you just happened to have a bad day. In this particular instance that this post is linking to, you just come off really badly. And then you trying to justify it in the above comment doesn't do you any favors either.
Thank you for the explanation. I'm just trying to get people to see my side of things, and to stop sending hate messages to my inbox. I don't think it's fair for people who weren't even involved in the situation to demonize me as a subpar human being who doesn't deserve an ounce of empathy, and use it as an excuse to subject me to harassment on this site. I have feelings too, and just because I went off on two people and told them to fuck off doesn't mean I don't get upset when someone messages me personally telling me to remove myself from the face of the earth. I've already apologized, you can stop beating me into the ground. :)
For the record, I think that's pretty terrible behavior as well, and I'm sorry it's happening to you. Unfortunately, people do tend to let their worst out online.
I want to avoid attacking you on this, but in terms of sharing "your side of the story" - can I ask what part of your post do you think best represents "your side" that justifies it?
Are you saying "hey everyone, I'm just a defensive person, so this behavior is ok"
or: "Hey everyone, I didn't mean to actually say 'fuck off', what I actually meant was to say was "______", and i chose poor phrasing"
And also, final point - do you kind of see how you seem to be overreacting?
Especially to the very first comment, where the person is simply asking "is this a trend?", but you interpret that as him saying "this is NOT a trend and you used the wrong word".
And then to the second person, who just tries to make the peace, you go off on him as well.
I'm not trying to say that my behavior was totally okay. If I thought it was, I wouldn't have apologized.
I'm just saying the situation is not what people are trying to make it out to be, nor does it deserve the attention it's getting unless it's for pure entertainment, nor do I deserve the judgments I am getting based on a a few interactions someone read. Yes, I go off on people and tend to overreact to things and easily perceive comments as an attack and am quick to defend myself. But when someone says "I don't think so and so meant it that way", I don't always see that as helpful or peacemaking, I see that as an invalidation of my thoughts, and my point of view, and another form of judgment without an attempt to understand why I would perceive something a certain way.
If the person asking whether it's a trend wanted to explain themselves, it was for them to do, and not someone else's place to jump into the situation and try to tell me how to perceive it. I don't like being told what to think, or how to feel.
Sorry, but what is your motivation for prolonging this discussion and going out of your way to educate me about what you think is socially acceptable behavior? It's almost as if you've taken the whole thing personally even long after the fact, and are now making it your responsibility to show me how wrong I am. I'm not being sarcastic, I'm genuinely curious why it is of such interest to you.
To your last question -
Because a couple hours ago I read this post and i thought to myself "how does someone become that person? how does this person view the world that makes them react this way?". Because it's easy to write you off as "oh, just another person being mean on the internet", but there's a person and a story behind it all.
And why am i "educating" you? Well, again, it's because we have opposing viewpoints. And I'm not going into this with the intent of "oh look, someone who thinks differently than me, I must change him/her!". It's "They think this way, but how do they think of this way?"
I mean, i think it speaks for itself that I'm subscribed to a subreddit called "subredditdrama". I think a lot of what's going on here is "why are they the way they are?"
>If the person asking whether it's a trend wanted to explain themselves, it was for them to do, and not someone else's place to jump into the situation and try to tell me how to perceive it.
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>I don't like being told what to think, or how to feel.
Here's what I think it really boils down to. You see someone telling you to think or feel a certain way. I (and I presume the original commenter), just see it as "Oh hey, you seem to have read into this wrong and as a result taken offense to it, but they probably meant it in this very unoffensive manner".
This is one of those stupid events that isn't worth another moment of your worry.
> In all respects, you've come off as a terrible person.
Don't get carried away. "Overreacted. A lot." is not the same as "a terrible person in all respects." You're just piling on.
I've just kind of skimmed through your responses, but I think the magnitude of them is a pretty clear indication that there's something wrong with you.
I've already acknowledged that I am a defensive person. There is a reason I am this way and it concerns events from my own personal life and defense mechanisms that I developed as a result. I'm not evil, nor did I set out to hurt anyone, nor did anybody involved in the exchanges actually seem hurt. More judgment, hate and attempts to hurt me have been directed at me personally than what I did to anybody else. I'm just asking for understanding and for the harassment not to continue when I've already removed the post.
This isn't really harassment. You're using an anonymous account on a website that you don't have that much invested in based on your account history. You could easily ignore it if your ego wasn't so wrapped up in it.
You should try to go to therapy if shit like this bothers you so much.
I'm not sure if that telling me that I'm obviously a defective person, that I should ignore the excessive hate I'm getting, insinuating that I'm egotistical, and telling me I should go to therapy is meant to be helpful, or if you took sides and decided to start picking on me because you feel I deserve it. I'll meet you halfway on your comments and just ignore YOU. :)
So, according to Google Trends, it is a trend!
http://www.google.com/trends/explore#q=ube%20ice%20cream