OP isn't sure if she got raped. Luckily, /r/confession is. (self.SubredditDrama)
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"I said I was raped. I don't know if it's true." OP tells /r/confession about what happened, and how conflicted her mind is.
The top commenter isn't as conflicted, causing some drama Edit: chain nuked, redditbots saved it
Further down, a commenter's "what if it went this way though" pops some more kernels.
Surely there must be a way to talk about this topic without causing butts to be hurt. Let's try the good old dictionary denifition. Wait, no, still drama.
One commenter believes to have found the source of conflict: "Rape is really an open word, people need to realize all the different connotations to it." Redditors agree and start 'raping the commenter with their words'. Edit: chain nuked, redditbots saved it
Bonus: /u/TypicalWhiteGirl loses it after forgetting her own username Edit: comment removed, redditbots saved it
Edit: Bonus bonus: somewhere else, people are getting very upset
169 comments submitted at 18:38:11 on Aug 11, 2014 by Belgiumball
Holy shit Reddit, how the fuck is that not rape?! She had already said no, and he decided to do it anyways. It doesn't matter how long she took to speak up, ITS STILL GODDAMN RAPE
No, no, it's okay because after she said stop he didn't keep raping her.
(such /s)
Thanks, judge Judy.
She didn't say no until he'd started, and he started because they were already rubbing genitals. When she said stop, he stopped. Either he's a dumb, inexperienced teenager who read her wrong and made a mistake, or he's a rapist and ought to be shot in the head. In my view rapists deserve to die, but since OP herself isn't even sure whether or not to call it rape I would not be so hasty to say that her ex-boyfriend deserves to die.
Consent to grinding does not equal consent to penetrative sex. But doesn't mean the guy is the worst person in the world
Perhaps this is part of the problem, the idea that all rapists are people who consciously choose to be rapists. I don't think that's the case for a variety of reasons.
You pretty much wrapped up the problem with just calling it rape. Well and then the other problem of the story... it's only her side but this is reddit so let's not let that stop her.
If she came out and said "I was raped" I'd get it, but even she seems unsure.