Freshly popping TIFU drama when OP doesn't acknowledge that cheating on his sick girlfriend is wrong (np.reddit.com)
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225 comments submitted at 16:16:09 on Aug 1, 2014 by nitrophilous
Freshly popping TIFU drama when OP doesn't acknowledge that cheating on his sick girlfriend is wrong (np.reddit.com)
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262 ups - 0 downs = 262 votes
225 comments submitted at 16:16:09 on Aug 1, 2014 by nitrophilous
People like this do these insane mental gymnastics to validate the awful things they do. cheating is never ok!
Cheating is okay if it doesn't impact the relationship otherwise
Cheating is about robbing the relationship of something. or cheating someone out of something. my girlfriend isn't losing anything
I love it when they come back here! It's like a 3D movie, the drama just pops right out at you!
Sometimes you kinda just want to piss in the popcorn, but you don't cause you know it's wrong. And then you scroll down and OP is just sitting there like Orville Redenbacher in a water sport movie.
Yeah it's like eating your cake and having it too. I want to piss in the popcorn, but no need, he came to me!
Oh gosh, why did you give me that mental image? That sweet old man...
See 47 children
I'm making more popcorn, this is like deleted scenes!
If he's actually like this in person we won't be seeing any children from him.
> Cheating is about robbing the relationship of something.
Yeah. Trust. And safety from STIs contracted from people outside the relationship.
> or cheating someone out of something.
Like a trustworthy partner. Plus the STIs thing.
> my girlfriend isn't losing anything
Except a relationship with a trustworthy partner.
case in point.
Hopefully she's losing a bad boyfriend soon.
Considering his lovely post in /r/relationships, she may have other reasons to bail on his cheating ass. Link
I don't know about the other five girls on reddit, but I would totally try to make it work with a cheater who feels this way about me: "Girlfriend got fatter. She makes me sort of ill to look at her. Don't know what to do."
Of course he's in his 30s and dating someone a decade younger, too. These types always seem to.
Haha what a fucking loser!
Age gap relationships can be healthy, as long as the basic rules are followed.
Please don't shame people in non traditional age gap relationships. It makes you look like a bigot. Thanks!
Ah yes. We are bigots for pointing out the obvious flaws in this man's logic and actions, including a ten year age gap in a relationship where he cheats on his sick partner. Got it.
big·ot
/ˈbigət/
noun
A person who points out that creepy manchildren like to date down to hold their greater life experience and usually better-off financial situation over their partner.
What he did was extremely wrong. It's sad to see you're also sexist. I hope you can gain some empathy. I know most redditors lack it, but hopefully you can readjust your tone and set an example! I believe in you!
Cri moar.
Crying is a great way to start becoming more in tune with your's and other's feelings. I'm proud of you for suggesting that!
Le relevant username.
I myself am in a non-traditional age gap relationship, and think this guy is a fucking asshole for being in one.
By itself, age-gaps aren't a huge deal, but it's not a coincidence that assholes radiate to them. He deserves shame for all the stupid shit he's pulling.
OP? Is that you in disguise?
Actually, I know you're being sarcastic/mocking, but I kind of agree. Not that it makes /u/SpermJackalope look like a bigot, but it's still kind of irrelevant since they're both consenting adults.
women my age all want to have kids with their exploding biological clocks and such and I'm not ready for that. younger women are just more carefree. keeps me much saner.
hahahaha
You are such a fucking loser. Jesus Christ. When your girlfriend dumps you, and she will, it will be the best decision she makes in her life.
The fuq you talking about?
Clearly it is literally impossible to find any woman over 30 who doesn't want children. I mean, I tell my fiance that I don't want kids and I'm 30, but as we both know, that's a secret plan to spermjack him and manipulate him into raising my crotch spawn.
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I thought the sarcasm was obvious, but it's Friday and I've had a lot of coffee.
That sarcasm wasn't even subtle.
One of the other five girls on reddit here. Oh yeah, that's a winner right there. Swoon. /s
I saw a therapist about that issue actually. Hoping it helps. I love her and don't want to ever lose her. Or hurt her.
If you love her, you should tell her the truth. Otherwise you're just treating her as a child who can't handle the truth. Part of love is respect, and what your doing is disrespectful to her.
she can't handle the truth.
Alright you're quoting Jack Nicholson, you're a fucking troll. This was a good one.
I dunno, wouldn't that be
You can't handle the truth!
A therapist can help, but a lot of it depends on you changing your shitty attitude towards your girlfriend.
Also, you're hurting her by cheating on her, I mean, getting relief elsewhere. Unless you have an open relationship, which I doubt considering you use the word 'cheating', it's hurtful and you will most likely lose her.
>I love her and don't want to ever lose her. Or hurt her.
lol, good luck with that.
OP responded!!! YESSSSS!!!!!!!
MRW
>my girlfriend isn't losing anything
Only her dignity and any reason to trust or respect you. Please go poly when she inevitably dumps you so you don't pollute the mainstream dating pool, you useless piece of shit.
I don't want this guy polluting the mainstream dating pool either (That's something I do) but I don't think his shit would fly in poly relationships.
That's true, I suppose an unabashed cheater in a monogamous relationship would still be an unabashed cheater in a poly relationship. Maybe he should just do the 'perpetual bachelor' thing.
nope. she gets time, attention, committment, nothing she wouldn't get normally. I spend a portion of my "me" time getting sex elsewhere. I get tested (not that we ever have sex anymore)... she's literally not losing anything. dignity isn't a thing. and if she doesn't find out she'll trust me just fine. like I trust her
edit: not one person has explained why the above is wrong in any way.
The mental gymnastics you use to justify this are amazing.
Guy is a sociopath.
> committment
You keep using this word, I do not think it means what you think it means.
It's wrong because you're lying to your gf. You are seeking intimate needs elsewhere without her consent. Your entire relationship is built on lies. Do you think that she'd want to stay with you if she knew that you were sleeping with other women? That she wants you to sleep with other women? If not, then the relationship as she knows it is invalid. You honestly can't see anything wrong with lying to your girlfriend and betraying her? Jesus christ, you really are a piece of shit.
It's just sex. all of the important stuff we are on the same page on
Go ahead and tell her about the sex then. If you two are so committed, I'm sure she'll be fine with it.
Is she cool with you telling the internet that you think she's fat and you're disgusted by her?
If sex is so unimportant to your relationship, then why are you so desperate for it so as to seek it out without telling your girlfriend? If sex is so unimportant, then why couldn't you just settle for being celibate, or at least telling your girlfriend that you want to open the relationship? You have your head wedged so far up your ass that I don't think you'll ever be able to get it out. The level of cognitive dissonance you have is astounding.
Dignity isn't a thing? Well you would say so, you don't have any.
> she gets time, attention, committment
Ha! Pretty sure committment doesn't include cheating on and lying to your ill girlfriend.
> she's literally not losing anything.
> and if she doesn't find out she'll trust me just fine.
So it seems you acknowledge she'd lose her trust in you (unless you don't believe in that either; then maybe you don't care), despite thinking she's not losing anything.
yeah if I fucked up and was a vindictive asshole and shoved it in her face she would be upset. But I would never do that. except by accident over text =/
I would bet if you calmly and rationally explain to her you were getting your needs met somewhere else, you'd still lose her trust. And I would bet you know that, too. Being "vindictive" has nothing to do with it.
If you aren't a troll, if you're actually doing this...you are, without question, the worst person I have ever encountered on reddit.
holy shit, really? I am sweet to her, buy her gifts, listen to her, we do things together, I don't hit her, I'm cool with her parents. But I have sex on the side and don't punish her with knowledge of said sex and I'm the 'worst person you've encountered". I'm sorry but that's crazy.
It's even sadder that you're clearly not capable of the level of self-consciousness that would be required to change your life and be a better human being. You were born a shitbag, and you will die a shitbag.
> if she doesn't find out she'll trust me just fine
There's so much wrong with the shit you say but this stands out as particularly stupid. "She'll carry on trusting me as long as she doesn't find out that I'm not trustworthy!" Well duh, but that's not a point in your favour.
>dignity isn't a thing
Yeah, apparently to you since you justify cheating on the woman you want to propose to with "it doesn't hurt anyone".
okay, but, it doesn't. She doesn't see me less, I don't love her less, there's no downside.
You're betraying her trust. If you're in a monogamous relationship, there are expectations from both partners to remain faithful. If you think that's a completely meaningless and useless thing, go ahead. And anyway if you have nothing to lose,why don't you tell her?
It's just better this way. She'd be hurt, things would be complicated, we'd probably break up. Nothing either of us want at the moment.
How's it better this way?Does trust and communication factor into your relationship at all or do you just want a fleshlight?
I don't want to be in a sexless relationship but I do want to be with her. As it stands I can make that happen. I don't see the issue
Oh, dear.
If you're being totally serious about this whole thing...
^^I ^^find ^^it ^^strange/suspicious ^^that ^^you ^^were ^^a ^^Redditor ^^for ^^2 ^^years, ^^and ^^never ^^submitted ^^anything ^^until ^^8 ^^days ^^ago. ^^This ^^is ^^either ^^a ^^throwaway, ^^or ^^you're ^^a ^^troll. ^^I'd ^^like ^^to ^^think ^^it's ^^the ^^latter.
... then I'm sure she'd nope the fuck out of your fuckin' narcissistic relationship faster than you can blink.
I'm feeling an overwhelming sadness for the poor girl.
Poor, poor girl...
Dude... You are scum. If your dick rules your thoughts so much, be truthful about it. Lying is for those with weak souls, or sociopaths. I'm sure you're both.
> If your dick rules your thoughts so much, be truthful about it.
No. I'm not going to hurt her.
>Lying is for those with weak souls
Souls don't exist
You are a crazy person. You need therapy.
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I feel just a bit too sorry for his gf to enjoy the popcorn ...
You are such a pathetic little rationalizing fuck. I hope your girlfriend leaves you today.
> Cheating is okay if it doesn't impact the relationship otherwise
No, no it's not and you've got to be fucked in the head to think otherwise.
You are a terrible human being.
OK, let's attack this from a different angle. How is this affecting the other woman? Does she know about your gf? Does she think you'll leave her? Do you own a dictionary and if so can you look up empathy?
Ooh that's a good question. Does she know that she's fucking someone with a long term gf who wouldn't be ok with it?
You're a piece of shit.
Cheating is about violating your partners trust in you. That is never ok.
If it's OK, it's not cheating... You are not in an open relationship where both parties are therefore free to seek other partners, and are subsequently lying by ommission... Not about something little either, you cannot possibly be committed to a relationship if you are not prepared to sacrifice something for her, and if sex really isn't that important, it really should be something that you can sacrifice for someone that you claim to be committed to, and who you claim to love.
Cheating is about breach of trust, and it's the breach of trust that gets you.
Even if it never comes to light. Your relationship gets tainted by how you had to hide stuff from her.
I was a cheater, I used to think that cheating was fine if the girl didn't know about it - but guess what, cheating isn't bad because sex, it's bad because boundaries. You'll never be a good long-term partner unless you learn to respect your SO's boundaries.