Reddit, I'm in a relationship pickle. How should I handle this? (self.AskReddit)

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43 comments submitted at 06:57:21 on May 17, 2013 by onecheeseburger

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  • thewrongjones
  • 8 Points
  • 06:58:57, 17 May

Yo. Really?

My advice would be for both of these young women to find something more worthwhile to do with their time.

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  • onecheeseburger
  • 1 Points
  • 07:06:47, 17 May

>My advice would be for both of these young women to find something more worthwhile to do with their time.

I can not say that I appreciate the sarcasm. If you having nothing nice to say, say nothing at all.

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  • thewrongjones
  • 0 Points
  • 07:07:33, 17 May

Nothing about that was sarcastic.

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  • onecheeseburger
  • 1 Points
  • 07:09:10, 17 May

My apologies, I was mistaken. However, my second sentence still applies. If you don't have help to provide, please mind your own business.

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  • thewrongjones
  • 0 Points
  • 07:10:43, 17 May

In a way, I'm really trying to help. One of these relationships is predicated on bullshit and the other is comfortable with you predicating a relationship on bullshit.

That's not a good start to anything.

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  • onecheeseburger
  • 1 Points
  • 07:13:33, 17 May

All true and accurate, but unless you have a time machine that you are willing to lend me the window for starting the relationship has passed. This is the situation at the current time, and the one that we have to work with.

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  • thewrongjones
  • 0 Points
  • 07:17:59, 17 May

Then extricate yourself from this situation and work on what made you feel the need to get yourself into it. Look, I'm all for doing whatever makes you happy as long as everyone is informed and consenting. If you can land two partners at once, awesome for you.

But you can't, at least not these two. The longer you lie, the worse it will be. And this doesn't sound like the kind of thing you'll have any opportunity to walk away clean from. But, honestly, if you're expecting something besides derision and frustration, don't come complaining about how the woman you've tricked into being with you doesn't want to move in with you and your other girlfriend.

As you said, if you don't have anything nice to say, etc. Nothing about what you're telling the woman you're lying to is "nice."

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  • onecheeseburger
  • 1 Points
  • 07:25:41, 17 May

Indeed, I will agree that the situation is difficult. However, I intend to attempt at rectifying the situation before abandoning it. Aborting is the last resort option, only to be used after all other resolution paths have been exhausted.

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  • thewrongjones
  • 0 Points
  • 07:32:21, 17 May

Well, here's hoping either coming clean or letting this heavily deceived young woman get on with her life is part of your ultimate plan for rectification.

Seriously, what you're doing is fucked up. You're taking a highly victimized stance, as well. All of this is and has been within your control to change.

Don't drag her further down because you lack the strength of character to take responsibility for your actions.

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  • onecheeseburger
  • 1 Points
  • 07:43:05, 17 May

>Well, here's hoping either coming clean or letting this heavily deceived young woman get on with her life is part of your ultimate plan for rectification.

As I have already stated, I am not abandoning the relationship until everything else has been tried.

>Seriously, what you're doing is fucked up. I see that you feel that war. >You're taking a highly victimized stance, as well. Sorry, I did not intend to.

>All of this is and has been within your control to change. Which is why I created this thread. To know what changes to make.

>Don't drag her further down because you lack the strength of character to take responsibility for your actions.

My character strength is unimpaired. Furthermore, abandoning a decade of work would more irresponsible than anything else.

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  • Boomshakalaka89
  • 3 Points
  • 06:59:08, 17 May

Brainwash them. Start a cult. Find a Gf3.

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  • onecheeseburger
  • 1 Points
  • 07:29:01, 17 May

I am not familiar with the process of the first two suggestions, and I suspect that involving a fourth individual would complicate rather deescalate the situation.

Do you have instructions on performing the first two actions?

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  • Boomshakalaka89
  • 1 Points
  • 07:33:06, 17 May

You try using big words to sound smart, but we all know you aren't based off the situation you got yourself in.

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  • onecheeseburger
  • 1 Points
  • 07:36:38, 17 May

>You try using big words to sound smart.

False.

>But we all know you aren't based off the situation you got yourself in.

As I have stated above, if your have nothing nice to say, you should not say anything. Good day.

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  • maxwellattacks
  • 3 Points
  • 06:59:38, 17 May

So when you were 14 you had a 9 year old gf? Is that correct?

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  • Loweded
  • 2 Points
  • 07:00:28, 17 May

I'm asking myself this as well.

Here's to hoping OP delivers.

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  • onecheeseburger
  • 1 Points
  • 07:01:14, 17 May

The above statement was: >So when you were 14 you had a 9 year old gf? Is that correct?

That statement is correct.

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  • lotsOhugsbear
  • 4 Points
  • 07:03:50, 17 May

Are you retarded?

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  • onecheeseburger
  • 1 Points
  • 07:06:04, 17 May

That would seem to be a futile question. In no situation would the answer be "yes." If I am retarded, I won't know any better and would respond "no" and if I am not retarded, then obviously the answer would also be "no."

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  • maxwellattacks
  • 0 Points
  • 07:07:24, 17 May

Did you guide her though puberty? From the first pubic hair to the first period?

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  • lotsOhugsbear
  • 0 Points
  • 07:08:49, 17 May

Do you really believe nobody with a mental handicap knows they have one? Great response, try harder next time.

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  • onecheeseburger
  • 1 Points
  • 07:11:10, 17 May

Fair point. Nevertheless, I do not believe that my mental capacity is significantly less than that of the average person.

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  • maxwellattacks
  • 0 Points
  • 07:13:24, 17 May

I believe it is. 14yo 'dating' (and I use the term loosely) a 9yo..WTF??

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  • onecheeseburger
  • 1 Points
  • 07:18:42, 17 May

The implication you make that the initial ages GF1 and I were at the initiation of the relationship can determine my intellectual ability is not something I find intuitive. Furthermore, at best you could only suspect mental retardation as it is a medical diagnosis that can only be made after thorough examination by a physician in person. With all respect, the suggestion that determination of mental capacity can be made by laymen over an internet forum is preposterous.

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  • Icaisfrank
  • 1 Points
  • 07:06:49, 17 May

WTF!

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  • basedtod
  • -1 Points
  • 07:12:00, 17 May

haha when he was 18 he was dating a 13 year old. i smell a future toddler hunter.

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  • onecheeseburger
  • 2 Points
  • 07:32:05, 17 May

You are using slang, but I believe that you are suggesting that I may in the future engage in pedophilic sexual activities with prepubescent children. I have no current intention or plans of engaging in such activity.

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  • nopantsclub
  • 2 Points
  • 07:00:01, 17 May

maybe date people who are into polygamy.

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  • thewrongjones
  • 2 Points
  • 07:41:45, 17 May

Polyamory, technically.

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  • nopantsclub
  • 2 Points
  • 07:43:04, 17 May

yeah, that word. whoops.

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  • Luchtkasteel
  • 1 Points
  • 07:05:57, 17 May

I dont know what's the weirdest thing in here. That you started a relationship with a 9 year-old when you were 14, that you are still together, that you've been cheating on her for 3 years, that the other girl doesn't mind to live with you and the gf1, or that you think there is a appropiate way to handle all this. I'm confused.

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  • Friedsthedude
  • 1 Points
  • 06:59:44, 17 May

Kill yourself.

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  • onecheeseburger
  • 1 Points
  • 07:03:17, 17 May

I do not believe that would resolve the situation.

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  • GreatValue2112
  • 0 Points
  • 06:58:37, 17 May

Stop watching so much tv.

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  • Loweded
  • 1 Points
  • 06:58:39, 17 May

Your TL;DR placement is whoreable.

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  • onecheeseburger
  • 1 Points
  • 07:01:22, 17 May

I am mildly amused.

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  • angrypotato1
  • 1 Points
  • 06:59:26, 17 May

/r/relationshipadvice

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  • shogunofsarcasm
  • 2 Points
  • 07:01:17, 17 May

Pick the one that would accept another girl. GF1 won't go for it but you might find a GF3 down the road who is. That way you can have fun with GF2 and GF3

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  • maxwellattacks
  • 1 Points
  • 07:49:29, 17 May

Is she your sister and you live in the desert, isolated from normal people?