[Indiana] Husband had access to my old iPad, was able to read and see all my iMessages (self.legaladvice)
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I used to live in Pennsylvania [Philadelphia County] with my soon to be ex. We separated, and I moved back to Indiana with my parents to determine if I wanted to continue the marriage. This was an mutual separation, but no formal agreement was entered into. I consulted with a local attorney, and he informed me that I'd have to be an Indiana resident for 6 months or more to file for divorce if/when I wanted to there.
5 or so months pass, and things do not look like they will work out, so I retained the attorney to get ready to file for divorce in Indiana. I texted back and forth with my iPhone to my sister and Mom quite alot, talking with her about filing for divorce ect.
However, when I moved, I took my things with me, but apparently must have forgot a very old iPad 2 that we both use to share. I must have left it, or it was buried somewhere, still signed in with my Apple ID. My husband must have come across it, and behold, he could read all of my iMessages, see everything I was talking to my sister and Mom about, including the divorce. iMessage downloads all iMessages sent by all devices under the same Apple ID.
How do I know? Because 5 months and 15 days into our separation, he filed for divorce in Pennsylvania. He even told me over the phone because he is one beneficiary of a Trust:
"Thanks for forgetting the iPad, it was invaluable to know you were planning to file for divorce there. I was worried when my lawyer told me the Indiana Courts there include Trusts into the Marital Estate. Now you' cant get anything from my Trust."
That's not the only thing, as he had me served with the PA Complaint in Divorce at a place where he could not possibly have known where I was working. He must have used the find my iPhone feature on the iPad 2, and told the guy where I would be.
He also dropped the bombshell that our house (it was his when I moved in several years before we got married) is owned by the family Trust, and all of 7 years of Marriage we were paying "rent" to the corporation that "owned" it instead of a mortgage.
This all cannot be legal, could it? What recourse do I have against him? I feel so violated for him having access to my messages, and to know for 5 months anywhere and everywhere I had been.
10 comments submitted at 16:19:49 on Jul 29, 2014 by Indiana_Divorcee