Drama over the whole thread when OP asks /r/relationships about telling his 13 yo nephew "hey check out those funbags" about a busty mother at his elementary school aged children's graduation ceremony (np.reddit.com)
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67 comments submitted at 17:50:09 on Jul 18, 2014 by wilst
>The boy, who we'll call Jared, is kind of a pain in the ass, to put it mildly. He acts up a lot, is hyper, etc. And he's just about to hit puberty and, like many boys, is somewhat obsessed with sex and perverted things. That said, I have a soft spot for the kid. His parents are frankly not the world's greatest parents. They're mean and short with him , but conversely don't really pay any attention to him or discipline him. I feel like most of Jared's problem is that he's extremely bright, but he's bored all the time and hasn't been given any structure or discipline and his parents act like they don't even like him.
OP should tell Jared to join Reddit, he'll fit in just fine around here.
/r/adviceanimals will make him a mod.
THIS THREAD DOES NOT CATER TO MY INTERESTS!
-Jared
I don't know why, but the term "funbags" makes me really, really uncomfortable... Maybe because it seems like creepy old man terminology... I don't know.
There are just so many better, less cringe-inducing (actual cringe, not r/cringe-cringe) nicknames for da ladies (boobs, jubblies, tits, ta-tas, etc, etc, ad nauseam)...
Most are really cringey to be honest. Calling boobs "ta-tas" or "jubblies"? Urgh.
I don't know anyone who has ever unironinically refered to them as anything other than boobs, tits, or breasts.
What a great story!
Oh no... we can't just enjoy this I guess.
Well I will, that was hilarious.
He shouldn't have done it, he did, kids say silly things.
He's got a great story to tell at parties now....
My son recently LOUDLY asked me at Target, Daddy... why is your penis so big and hairy!?!?!
Your son is the best wingman ever.
>He's got a great story to tell at parties now....
Only if your parties consist of a bunch of dudebros drinking bud. This is not a story someone should be proud of, let alone want to retell to people at any kind of respectable gathering.
Naw man being embarrassed by kids is a highly common topic among parents.
Hoity-toity dinner party, at the theater, to hanging out at the bar, they are told in all places and welcome everywhere.
Parents love them.
Look, it's a funny story. He fucked up, the kid fucked up, and then the kicked rubbed salt in the wound. If you can honestly tell me you don't have a single story where you fucked up and did something stupid, and that you've never told anyone else that story for the self-flagellation laughs or to share in the fact that we're all human and all fuck up on occasion, then I'll respect that you are in fact the second coming of Jesus.
Holy shit.
It was momentary lapse of judgement. He was trying to play cool with his nephew and it blew the fuck up on him. He was embarrassed to all hell. It's a good story.
You see the failings of the character and how he learns and accepts his mistake. No real malice is taken during the events but it turned out hilariously bad.
It's like something you would see on Curb Your Enthusiasm or Louie.
I'm so glad I've never been stuck at one of these "respectable gatherings" where a funny story like this wouldn't be OK to share.
Where do you people hail from? I need to know. When you go to a gathering, do you and your type all sit in the corner and just pick out all the perceived slights made by the guests of the gathering? I get what the dude said was not cool, but for fuck's sake it IS a funny story.
Help me understand people like you. How are you so joyless all the time? Does it take its toll on your interpersonal relationships? Are you generally considered the "bore" in your group? Do you read etiquette books for fun? Do you enjoy the smell of your own farts perhaps?
Do you like everything?
As a woman, I don't find it funny. I find it gross and cringe worthy.
I'm not joyless, I just wouldn't be thrilled by the idea that a guy I know might be pointing my attributes out to middle schoolers so they could bro out.
Do you get how it would make me think less of a guy to know he acted like this? Because what you wrote seems to assume no one at the party has ta-tas, they just look at them.
Ah but you see it needs to be turned into a GENDER WAR because everything needs to be a GENDER WAR because how else would we know where we stand as genders without a GENDER WAR
Yeah, those bitches are so hyper sensitive with their #yesallwomen crap. They always have to start a GENDER WAR over bros talking about their tits and catcalling. He was just teaching his nephew how to use women to prove how much of a man he is. Uptight bitches, it is like they think they're people deserving of basic decency.
Sorry if you thought I was condoning cat calls or something? I'm well aware that it takes two sides to GENDER WAR
What is amazing about the ... newish male end of the gender war ... is how one of their complaints about the other side is how they make everything about ... a gender war.
Really, the two sides have a lot in common. They should get a room.
they'd make a cute couple.
That kid's going places...
most likely /r/theredpill
He's 13, he's probably a senior poster and mentor there already.
He's 13, relax.
That doesn't make it an appropriate thing to do.
Nobody said it was.
Wow one story of failing in human nature by a 13 yr old boy who aren't really known for social cues and you just know he is going to be a misogynistic ass when he grows up.
Hmmmm...maybe you read a little too much into it
I think you are reading into a joke a little too much.
Hmmm...maybe I did, maybe I did.
Still think it is a funny story and the commentators are being overly harsh on him.
Hmmmm.
... . ..... Yes... Quite.
>one story of failing in human nature
...rich coming from a guy with a racial slur for a username. Great work.
Damn you are the first person to notice. I always found it weird it was a slur for black people that's why I used its name. It makes no god damn sense.
Anyways I think I misread /u/ThatGuy_989 comment as serious but instead it was a joke. My bad.
I know my first reaction to discovering some new racial slur is not to use it as my username on a website. I dunno what it means that you decided to do that. But folks are going to judge you as racist when they find that shit out, man.
I'm fine with that. If you look at the name and instantly discredit what I wrote I am ok with it.
Also I find it funny when people can find it but you are the first. Also with an anonymous posting sight with plenty of retarded usernames I find mine pretty tame.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T549VoLca_Q
Absolutely correct. You shouldn't call people that or judge them on race, creed, religion, sexuality, or gender.
It's a username though and I'm not calling anyone that. So the video doesn't really mean anything towards it.
You have to be a redpiller to use "funbags? "
What
It's an honest question. Do you have to be a misogynist to even utter the term?
No, it is the catcalling part that is misogynistic, not the term funbags.
Oh, I misunderstood what you meant.
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It's horrible in there.
But that's a fucking funny story.
Obviously OP should not have said that and I don't know what the hell his nephew was thinking but I think some of the posters there take a pretty ridiculous stance against the mere idea of guys talking to each other about a woman they find attractive. I realize that it can get taken to an unhealthy extreme and catcalling is not cool but the blanket opposition in that thread is a bit puzzling. It's not like women never do the same thing with regards to men.
If there's anything I've learned over the years, is that (for better or worse) men cannot have an opinion on this unless, of course, it 100% agrees with the feminine viewpoint on the subject. It's best to either join the circlejerk or avoid it completely.
Goddamnit! This one has some great potential and I'm about to head out for a bike ride.
Grumble, grumble… fine. I'll go outside. Maybe I'll see some nice funbags while I'm out and think of this thread.
Make sure you don't actually say out loud they are funbags though, otherwise you are objectifying.
You are accidentally correct. I know you didn't intend to be right, but you ended up giving Decent Human Advice for once.
I'm pretty sure that when I was 13 my friends and I would catcall women all the time. It's pretty normal behavior for obnoxious 13 year old boys and for the most part it's totally harmless.
Everyone is making way too big a deal out of this. Just tell the kid that was inappropriate and move on. However, you're an idiot if you think you're going to stop 13 year old boys from talking about boobs and sex.
>I'm pretty sure that when I was 13 my friends and I would catcall women all the time. It's pretty normal behavior for obnoxious 13 year old boys and for the most part it's totally harmless.
Normal doesn't make it okay and it certainly isn't harmless, sexist 13 year old boys grow into sexist adults
I don't think 13yr old boys catcalling are necessarily sexist. They're just kids.
It's inherently sexist and harassment, it doesn't become okay because they're young. Thirteen is more than old enough to know better
It isn't inherently sexist. I'm not sure you know what inherently means. They could be doing it just to show off to someone else or each other.
Edit: Oh nevermind you are SRS lol. I should have known...
>They could be doing it just to show off to someone else or each other.
That doesn't mean it isn't sexist. There is no scenario where they could be cat calling and not be sexist.
I'm speaking about them as in people. We don't know if they're sexist because we know nothing about what their opinions are about the opposite sex.
We know they are cat calling which is something only sexist people do, that's how you know they're sexist.
Right, but as I just said it's not always something sexist people do. Sometimes kids will do it just to show off to each other. It doesn't tell us anything about what they think about women.
Sexism isn't always malicious or intended but that doesn't mean it's not sexism.
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So it's sexist when my grandpa talks about the nice tits on one of our cattle.
> sexist 13 year old boys grow into sexist adults
Of course, because no one's behavior changes naturally as they grow. /s
I think the point is more we shouldn't ignore shitty behavior and contribute it to a "boys will be boys" attitude.
At that age I think a "boys will be boys" attitude is just fine, much like a "girls will be girls" attitude is fine.
We're not shitting all over teen girls for having crushes on semi-attractive guy and acting like they belong in the movie Mean Girls, are we?
Point is, kids are going to be kids and teens are going to be teens. Let them get it out of their system. It's cool and funny for a 13 year old boy to yell "Nice Funbags" at that age. In a year or two they will grow out of it. If they don't then it's time to have a talk with them.
I think he should be taught that that's not ok but I agree that it doesn't mean he's destined to become a sexist douchebag as an adult. 13 year old boys are really horny and really immature
Yeah, of course. No one is saying that you shouldn't pull the kid aside and tell him not to say that sort of thing. I just think people are making way too big a deal out of it.
Kids will be kids. Teens will be teens. It's the way of things.
It's pretty naive to just assume people grow out of sexism when that's clearly not the case.
It isn't harmless to the women you catcalled.
I get how it can be a dumb thoughtless thing you did before you matured, but it isn't totally harmless.
You remember when #yesallwomen was trending? You're the kind of guy they were hoping to reach.