I'm a pathetic 'terper' looking for advice. (self.TheBluePill)
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I'm a heterosexual man, 20-year-old college student, who has never been on a date, had a girlfriend, kissed or did anything sexual whatsoever with a woman.
In high school I didn't give much thought to romance because I was always preoccupied with my education, and believed that 'love' will one day come out of the blue. When college started, however, I started taking a more proactive attitude towards finding a girlfriend and got interested in the 'seduction' community.
I've socialized with hundreds of girls since college started – none seemed interested in me. Sometimes I tried to use canned 'openers' and such to flirt, while in other instances I just behaved 'naturally'. Nothing seemed to matter at all. I've also asked a dozen girls out in the past couple of months, and they all refused. Some said that they just like me as a 'friend; others told me I'm not their 'type'. See, the problem with this type thing is that there are universal human preferences for what's attractive or not. For example, a muscular body and low body fat percentage are universally desirable traits in a man.
Which brings me to my next point – am I fucking unattractive? I am tall and fit; I dress well; I am well-spoken. But, get this, I only look average. I asked on /r/rateme and /r/amiugly if I'm unattractive, and the consensus is that while I'm not hideous, I'm not actually good looking either...I'm just fucking average, like most people are. I also did a little survey in real life and all girls agreed that I'm 'OK' looking. Again, keep in mind that I didn't do any “sleazy PUA shit” to find a girlfriend. I socialized, conversed, asked women out, and got rejected.
If I were to post this on /r/seduction, they'd tell me to focus on my inner game or whatever self-improvement crap is hip these days. I already feel I'm pretty good in terms of fashion, body etc. and don't see how I can become better as of now. If I were to post this on /r/theredpill, they'd tell me to stop bitching and approach more because deep down I am alpha. Yeah, after getting a fuckton of rejections, I somehow feel one more won't do any good (diminishing returns).
So, why do you think I can't find a girlfriend? I'm curious, what do you think about my situation?
PS: If virtually all women I talk to say they only like me as a friend, despite them being single, I guess I'm just unattractive. Do you think this might be the case?
Last edit: The advice here doesn't seem too surprising, other than keep trying, work on my social skills etc. I've come to realize that I don't really like what I see in the mirror. I don't like how I talk or how I behave. One day maybe a girl will be interested in me, but I'm just so jaded about this romance thing that I cannot further humiliate myself. I tried, I failed, now I move on. Thanks.
103 comments submitted at 12:29:11 on Dec 25, 2013 by Am3fucksad