What is the worst thing you have done to have sex? (self.AskReddit)

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Things you regret. Things that you look back on and now think "Why the hell did I do that?"

5121 comments submitted at 13:02:34 on May 3, 2013 by someuniquename

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  • In_A_World_Where
  • 221 Points
  • 16:06:31, 3 May

You're the kind of asshole guys are always trying to warn their girlfriends about but end up being called over protective over.

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  • iaccidentlytheworld
  • 29 Points
  • 16:56:43, 3 May

This is exactly what is happening to me. It sucks.

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  • jtoj
  • 1 Points
  • 17:54:07, 3 May

yup. right in the feels.

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  • schrodingleberry
  • 6 Points
  • 17:38:59, 3 May

I feel you, a similar thing happened to me, her name was Jennifer.

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  • WyrmSaint
  • 1 Points
  • 18:43:16, 3 May

Yeah, the trick is you just have to make it look he killed himself.

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  • onowahoo
  • 1 Points
  • 18:44:40, 3 May

This is way more the girls fault...

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  • ElCapitanoMan
  • 1 Points
  • 18:18:49, 3 May

Yes!! There are so many guys like this out there, that's why often times I come off as over-protective.

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  • jjohnson8
  • 1 Points
  • 18:15:32, 3 May

No shit, I need to show this whole thread to my gf as unequivocal proof that I am always right about her "friends"

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  • drEckelburg
  • 1 Points
  • 18:26:37, 3 May

Copy that. Over.

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  • IHappenToBeARobot
  • 3 Points
  • 17:39:49, 3 May

Or called jealous.

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  • Bizronthemaladjusted
  • 1 Points
  • 17:58:30, 3 May

It takes two to tango and alcohol is no excuse. She disrespected her own relationship and her boyfriends. She didn't do anything she didn't WANT to do in the first place.

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  • Gochiir
  • 1 Points
  • 18:16:29, 3 May

This is some victim blaming bullshit. Drinking with someone isn't consent for them to sexually assault you, especially if they are emotionally manipulating you.

Here's the reddit double standard: if a girl leads a guy on and doesn't tell him she's not interested, she's a friend-zoning monster and he's an innocent dupe of her feminine wiles. But if a woman has drinks with a man and he sexually assaults her by preying on her fragile emotional state, well, they're both bad but she wanted it so no big deal.

Jesus Christ, guys. Jesus. Fucking. Christ.

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  • Gingor
  • 1 Points
  • 18:18:02, 3 May

Wat? He wasn't sexually assaulting her, he talked her into having sex with him. She willingly got drunk and she willingly had sex with OP.

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  • Gochiir
  • 1 Points
  • 18:20:59, 3 May

Uh, no. If you get drunk you don't "willingly" have sex with someone. They prey on your intoxication to rape you. He admits as much! He used alcohol (HIS idea) and her emotionally fragile state to coerce her into something he KNEW she wouldn't normally do.

That's rape.

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  • Gingor
  • 1 Points
  • 18:25:20, 3 May

Drunken sex isn't rape.

She got drunk willingly. He didn't force her to down the liquor. She got drunk in full knowledge that it would impair her judgement.

Same as a taxi-driver that takes you home from the bar isn't stealing from you. You know the consequences of alcohol, you accept them.

Now, it clearly was a skeevy think to do, but it was neither sexual assault nor rape. It was drunken sex.

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  • Gochiir
  • 1 Points
  • 18:30:10, 3 May

A consequence of alcohol isn't rape. If I get mugged by the taxi driver, it's still robbery!

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  • Gingor
  • 1 Points
  • 18:32:21, 3 May

Yes. But lowered inhibitions are.

She did consent at the time they had sex. Probably only because she was drunk, yes, but she did consent nonetheless. Just because she regretted it later doesn't make it rape.

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  • Gochiir
  • 1 Points
  • 18:37:40, 3 May

No, what makes it rape is that drunk people can't consent.

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  • Gingor
  • 1 Points
  • 18:40:54, 3 May

So a taxi-driver that takes money for driving you home is robbing you. You can't consent to him driving you home if you're drunk.

Drunk people can consent (assuming they aren't passed out, ofc) because they knew what they were getting into when they got drunk. They lowered their inhibitions by their own free will, so any choice they make while in that state is a product of their decision.

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  • evercharmer
  • 1 Points
  • 18:23:46, 3 May

He was drunk too. I'm not saying he's not an asshole, but if we're going to take intoxication into account here as far as not being able to make decisions about sex...

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  • Gochiir
  • 1 Points
  • 18:32:02, 3 May

But he got drunk with the plan of duping her into sex already in place. It's not like he, while drunk, suddenly developed the desire for sex (in which situation, I agree, he wouldn't necessarily be at fault). But he deliberately set it up. Giving him cover just because he was drunk too isn't right. He planned the whole thing.

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  • Just_A_Girl_From_BK
  • 1 Points
  • 18:31:58, 3 May

Sorry, I am usually in agreement with this sort of thing but I disagree here.

Was he an asshole to offer her drinks hoping she would get drunk and fuck him while he played on her emotions? Hell yes, did he ply her with drinks to the point she was so drunk she had no idea what was going on or could stop it? There's not enough proof to think he went that far with his dickish behavior so assuming this is rape really isn't fair.

Edit: FWIW while having drunk sex can be considered rape by law in some cases, it doesn't sound like this is what happened. It seems like he broke the universal law of being a decent human being and that's about it.

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  • Gochiir
  • 1 Points
  • 18:40:11, 3 May

He admits it! He said drinks were his idea and that he planned on using her emotional state to make her liable to do something she otherwise wouldn't have done.

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  • dodge84
  • 1 Points
  • 18:44:36, 3 May

Unless she was passed out/blacked out, that's still not rape. Emotionally manipulating someone isn't illegal, happens all the time in sales/marketing.

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  • Bizronthemaladjusted
  • 1 Points
  • 18:32:57, 3 May

She's not the victim. Her boyfriend is the victim. They were both drinking, they are both responsible for their actions. Are you saying she's totally enslaved by her emotions and can't make a decision for herself? Because that's what it sounds like.

Sexual assault, bullshit. She knew what she was doing and so did he. He didn't force her to have sex, she did that of her own volition, drunk or not. Being drunk isn't an excuse for anything nor is her emotional state. If you changed the scenario from cheating on your boyfriend to murdering your boyfriend, you wouldn't be putting up the same argument. Why? Because she still had the choice. Lots of people don't do things when their drunk or in a vulnerable emotional state like cheat on their SO.

Quit jumping on the reddit hating bandwagon where you cast everyone into the same boat while complaining about how everyone cast varies groups into the same boat. It's hypocritical. Plenty of these guys are scum for the lies they've told to get laid, and yes, some of them are verging on rape by lying.

In your scenario that you provided, the girl is a horrible person for using the guy but the guy needs to make his intentions clear and know where he stands. In the second part, they are both equally responsible for their actions.

Let me tell you something about life, everyone has an agenda. He had one, she had one. Rarely do people ever deviate from it.

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  • Gochiir
  • 1 Points
  • 18:37:21, 3 May

So every time I've gotten drunk with my friends, if one of them raped me, I would have only myself to blame for consuming the demon rum?

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  • onowahoo
  • 1 Points
  • 18:45:00, 3 May

I don't know. Sounds like the girlfriend is the true asshole here.

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  • curiousJordan
  • 1 Points
  • 18:06:44, 3 May

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