A public service announcement for the women of Tinder. Get the hell off your high horse. (imgur.com)

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182 comments submitted at 13:57:05 on Jun 1, 2014 by westonm

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  • NothingISayIsReal
  • 270 Points
  • 17:50:13, 1 June

Wanting casual sex doesn't mean you want to be harassed by dickheads who don't understand tact. They have every right to be offended by people who actively try to harass them. You're operating on this assumption that because she wants to have sex, she must be willing to accept and be cool with every response she gets, no matter how vile, disrespectful or rude it is. This isn't a public service announcement; this is you venting about being rejected.

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  • [deleted]
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  • 21:14:20, 1 June

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  • NothingISayIsReal
  • 32 Points
  • 21:18:59, 1 June

So a women who happens to be looking for a casual hookup deserves no respect? Simply for that fact? And she should be willing to fuck any pig that talks to her any sort of way? You've got some fucked up way of thinking if you believe sex somehow makes her less of a person deserving of common courtesy. I'm not saying you have to wine and dine her, but don't treat her as a holster for your goddamn dick. She's still a person.

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  • Sabastomp
  • -8 Points
  • 21:29:54, 1 June

Or maybe, just maybe, and I know I'm making a huge logical leap here, so bear with me.

Maybe someone on a casual hookup network should be aware that "Hey, you DTF?" is part and parcel to that environment. Sex is not on a pedestal with the type of people on those apps, and therefore isn't treated as special.

Crazy, I know.

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  • NothingISayIsReal
  • 4 Points
  • 21:32:50, 1 June

That's not the issue here. Saying they dont deserve respect, or insinuating that they are not allowed to be offended at some of the guys that "offer themselves" is a completely wrong assumption to make just because they use a hookup app. And no one is saying that being dtf is wrong, but there is a line that can be easily crossed from lending a sexual advance to talking to someone in such a demeaning manner that they would call it "offensive."

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  • ajagulay
  • -6 Points
  • 21:35:29, 1 June

You can easily block someone who is disrespecting you, I'm a bi guy and I get plenty of disrespectful messages as well. Stop taking yourself so seriously, block them, and move on.

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  • NothingISayIsReal
  • 8 Points
  • 21:41:13, 1 June

What are you even lending to this? The issue is not the app or the ability to block them. I would assume many women would block men who do this. But this whole thread and meme is acting as if a woman who does this is being "too picky" and needs to "get off her high horse" just because she's on a hookup site. They aren't beggars who have to just take what they can get, and to insinuate that they should and then welcome any type of message from anyone is where I have the problem.

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  • ajagulay
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  • 21:43:02, 1 June

People complain about it because they are offended, as a result of taking themselves too seriously. Why are you offended because of an idiotic message that a random person over the internet sends you? You look at it once, block them, tell yourself that this happens literally all the time to everyone(not just women), and move on. Really shouldn't have any effect on your life, but people still complain about it.

Edit: basically a lot of women are making a gender issue out of something that isn't even a big deal and shouldn't have any effect on their life. If you're letting something like that offend you, you're taking yourself too seriously. This doesn't just happen to women, or bi men, happens to everyone.

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  • NothingISayIsReal
  • 6 Points
  • 21:47:07, 1 June

Being regularly bashed with offensive messages and then being offended does not mean the person is "taking themselves too seriously." They are a person, and can be rightfully upset when people act incredibly rude or disrespectful towards them as if they were nothing but a sex object. Your response lacks empathy, and sometimes, you can't just "brush off" what some creep sends you and you shouldn't have to. Being harassed and disrespected shouldn't be the expected norm in any situation. And no one made this into a gender issue but OP when he addressed this meme to "all women." So, shame on them for feeling that it was targeted at women. The fact that is happens to everyone doesn't make it right and it does NOT justify OP.

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  • ajagulay
  • -9 Points
  • 21:52:37, 1 June

Are you seriously going to go on an app that is for hooking up over the internet and not expect to get rude messages? Its par for the course, you block them and move on. You really are taking yourself too seriously if you're getting offended by shit like that. Why bother wasting your energy getting offended by something that you KNOW is going to happen, but you still CHOOSE to put yourself in that situation? Wouldn't it just be easier and healthier to move on with your life like the rest of the people who don't complain?

since you edited your comment: It doesn't fucking matter what is right or wrong, its a matter of what you KNOW is going to happen when you go on an online hookup site. If you aren't comfortable receiving rude messages that you can easily block and move on from, THEN DON'T USE THE SERVICE. You're never going to be able to change the fact that people are going to send rude messages over the internet.

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  • onceastreetrat
  • 2 Points
  • 22:32:38, 1 June

You're ignorent.

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  • ajagulay
  • 1 Points
  • 22:58:31, 1 June

Clearly with a comment like that you're much more aware of the world than I am. I mean, calling people who get rude Tinder messages victims and acting like they're equally as victimized as actual harassment victims isn't IGNORANT*.

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  • onceastreetrat
  • 1 Points
  • 22:34:57, 1 June

OP made it a "gender issue" when they said "women"