"My girlfriend is a die hard feminist, and I'm a TRPist. (I'm 30, she's 19, so I have some life experiences to draw from and she's being mostly idealistic)" /theredpill (np.reddit.com)
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186 comments submitted at 00:35:52 on May 14, 2014 by david-me
How do they not teach this in schools or something?
Because concern trolls are usually the only ones who actually care what other people legally do in their own bedroom?
It has nothing to do with the bedroom.
A relationship between a 19 year old and 30 year old is intrinsically imbalanced, not only in terms of physical/mental (brain finishes almost all development at 25) maturity but also in experience and economic status. Someone who is 23 and finished with college is worlds apart in experience from someone 18 and just out of high school. There not only is an unhealthy power dynamic, but it also raises the question of why someone at the age of 30 would be seriously dating a 19 year old, especially someone who is a proponent of TRP.
Here's a case by case basis for you: the older partner can demonstrate that they aren't being corrupted by the power they have, and then it will no longer be assumed to be unhealthy. Being beholden to someone is almost always a recipe for unhealthy.
Unless of course, you're the concern troll that's concern trolling, seeing your negative karma total. In which case, lol.
So guilty until proven innocent? I'm sure that will work out great... /s
Look at all these assumptions you are making about two people you HAVE NO CLUE ABOUT. I'm not even gonna go into your misinformation about neurological development except to say you should read up a bit more, the development stages aren't even similar across gender divides... anyway... the point there is clear that you do not have the knowledge or experience to make the claims you are making.
Also, the discussion about what two people do consensually in their own bedroom has nothing to do with the bedroom? lolwut?
>... it also raises the question of why someone at the age of 30 would be seriously dating a 19 year old...
To live a life loved by another maybe? I PROMISE YOU, chicken little, the sky is not falling.
Lastly (hopefully), my negative comment karma is a reflection of the tolerance that people in this demographic have for opinions they don't agree with... despite reddiquette. But you should know that already given this thread...
/u/Andr3wsky already said the rest better than I could have said, but on
>I'm not even gonna go into your misinformation about neurological development except to say you should read up a bit more, the development stages aren't even similar across gender divides... anyway... the point there is clear that you do not have the knowledge or experience to make the claims you are making.
I'm pretty sure I'll trust my neuroscience PhD spouse over you.
And... chill out a bit. For your own health, if nothing else.
Whenever anyone complains about reddiquette I think of that XKCD bit about how saying you "can say whatever I want because free speech" is the ultimate concession, akin to saying "my opinion is only valid because I am free to say it."
"You should upvote me because Reddiquette" is just awful. It's a concession that you have no valid points to make. That your arguments are so awful - almost to the point of delusion - that your only fall back is that "I can say what I want on this website".
Afterwards, do you consider the things you say? Do you wonder if you're wrong and everyone else is right? Or do you simply buckle down, entrench yourself in your views even more. I'm genuinely curious if you are capable of changing your mind.
Well we are here to laugh.
Yeah man, it's totally not a valid concern that a fully mature man might be taking advantage of his teenaged girlfriend. It's totally concern trolling and not a thing that actually happens frequently at all. You totally go it
Your concern can be completely valid as well as completely ignored by the majority of the populous.
Sorry, not everyone thinks the sky is constantly falling nor that every age gap is accompanied by abuse. Most people understand that relationships are complex and intimate events that should be taken on a case-by-case basis.
That sure was a lot of words to not actually address what I said, which was that it's bullshit rationalization looking at people saying that maybe this adult should not be going out with a teenager based on the fact that this is actually a thing that literally happens with frequency and calling it concern trolling
Try again I guess? Or not. That would be good too.
AW SHIT!! WUHHLD STAHR
I wish I knew what this meant so I could decide whether or not to be really sarcastic at you too!
This should help you out.
A lot of words? It was three sentences....
It also directly addressed your concern trolling and informed you how little people care about this occurrence. Since you're slow I'll try to help you see it. It addressed your concern that by going ONLY by the age of the individuals you are "concerned" about the likelihood of abuse. ("concerned" in the sense that you will whine about it on an internet forum, not "concerned" in the sense that you will actually do anything about it.)
This is addressed when, or if, you can understand that:
>Most people understand that relationships are complex and intimate events that should be taken on a case-by-case basis.
Of course you can keep beating that drum if you want. I'm willing to bet the term "teen" is going to be searched for in porn sites for a lot longer than you can whine.
> Of course you can keep beating that drum if you want. I'm willing to bet the term "teen" is going to be searched for in porn sites for a lot longer than you can whine.
What exactly do you think this means?
Also concern trolling isn't what you think it is
What does it mean when an abundance of people (most of them adults) seek sexual satisfaction from teenagers? Well it might mean that the topic of adults having a sexual relationship with teenagers has a bit more leeway than you are giving it, at least in the eyes of the general populous.
You are concern trolling by attempting to make an issue out of two adults engaging in consensual relations under the guise of concern for this poor defenseless woman who, in your eyes, can't make her own decisions on who she dates without being "abused".
Really, you don't know what concern trolling is. Until you find out, you should stop accusing people of doing it. I'm also not saying what you think I'm saying, so you should probably not put words in my mouth either
I think I'm probably gonna stop discussing this though, because I don't believe you actually think that there's any equivalence between getting off on porn featuring young-looking women (almost none of whom are actually teenagers) and the potential for abuse in a relationship where there's a big age difference
>What does it mean when an abundance of people (most of them adults) seek sexual satisfaction from teenagers?
Stats? All I see is a statement.
The better question is "What does it mean when TRP try and promote the idea that an abundance of people (most of them adults) seek sexual satisfaction from teenagers?"
And the answer is that a lot of TRP members are sexual predators, idiots and stupid teens who see the former as good role models.
Just looked through your post history. All of your posts are horrible flamebait and all are on this subreddit.
SRD mods were right to have banned whatever account you used to troll with.
You are a sad, strange little man, and you have my pity.