What do you mean when you say porn is "just a thing"? (self.AskMen)
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I have been in a long distance relationship for almost a year now, but I have deep rooted security issues (body image/self worth). My SO said he stopped watching porn when we got together (a decision not influenced by me) but I recently found a subscription of his to a porno website (he saved a password doc to an account we share), and confronted him about it. First he lied about it, but then he said it was only there because he wanted to manage all the accounts he had and anyway it started a big fight between us because I have severe jealousy issues due to being cheated on in every other serious relationship I've ever been in.
Anyway he tried explaining to me that porn is, in his words "just a thing" and that it didn't matter. He tells me he never looked for anything specific or certain girls, but he admitted to only liking amateur porn (which I think is worse than liking the fake production pornos). I have no idea what he meant when he said it's "just a thing", how can it be? I can't see it meaning anything other than I'm not good enough. Can any of you help me understand this?
Edit: I should mention that we do fool around on skype (masturbate together), if that counts for anything. And in my defense, I never once asked him to stop watching porn, I didn't even imply that I wanted him to, he just mentioned that he had stopped of his own accord.
TL;DR: Found my SO's porno website after he said he stopped watching when we got together. His excuse was that porn is "just a thing", what does he mean by that?
29 comments submitted at 20:27:22 on Mar 20, 2013 by [deleted]