/r/gentlemenboners discusses why there are gender segregated chess tournaments. Is it because women use seduction tactics to win? Is it because men have larger brains? Or is it because women just hate losing to men? (np.reddit.com)
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268 comments submitted at 14:25:51 on Apr 27, 2014 by partytimebro
> but I would feel irritated if they brought it up while I was doing something of intellectual rigor.
Not me. I'd still be flattered. (My fiancee always used to tell me I looked sexy when I was studying in deep concentration.) But that could be my male privilege speaking -- and I say that in both a tongue-in-cheek and sincere way.
I think the difference is probably that when it happens only every now and then, it's nice, but when it happens to the point that you feel like your actual achievements are overshadowed by people weighing in on whether they'd like to have sex with you then it becomes tiresome and frustrating.
I agree. Then again, different people have different experiences. One of my cousins is drop-dead gorgeous, but everyone's intimidated by her looks. So the only people that'd hit on her were creepy old men who don't give a shit and tend to hit on anything without a penis. So when anyone else let slip that she's pretty, she was delighted.
But you're absolutely right.
Oh yeah, it must be so hard being attractive. I pity all those attractive women. /s
Was helping my dad with our septic tank issues once, I stand there in a biohazard suit covered in fluids. Some guy driving by "You shouldn't spoil your good looks with that work!" I'm sorry I wanted to be able to take a shit without having everything back up. I'll refrain from doing so in the future.
Well there's your problem. Everyone knows girls don't really shit. /s
It's understandable that your SO would comment on your looks. Not so much for complete strangers to talk about their boners for you.
Still. Call me the outlier, chalk it up to the differences between how society treats men and women, it'd still be flattering for me. Of course, maybe if it's all I encountered, I'd change my tune.
Anyway, I realize the SRD zeitgeist has spoken, and that's fine, but it's a little strange that there tends to be the opinion that /r/GentlemanBoners is "eew, icky!" while /r/LadyBoners is fine and dandy. Can't they both be fine?
I feel like the whole gentleman part is so... cringe-y. I don't have an issue with either sub though.
I always thought that was meant to be tongue-in-cheek, like it's a sub for pictures of beautiful women looking classy rather than Girls Gone Wild contestants about whom dudebros brag they'd hit it so hard the person who managed to pull them out would be the next king of England.
But I'm not a regular there so I could be wall-to-wall fedora-tipping for all I know.
Come on, this is like yelling at someone for looking at porn while browsing earthporn. You know the context and you're just being chronically offended because you already have your "women are objectified" axe to grind.
http://www.reddit.com/r/LadyBoners/comments/1rhwr8/ladiesmeetthe1chessplayerintheworld/
Oh no, lady boners is looking at a picture of a chess grandmaster while he's playing chess. That's both disturbing because they're taking away from his achievements as a chess player, and that they apparently have boners. Because I am incapable of context.
Your word/substance ratio is troubling.
If it has so little substance, why don't you counter it instead of copping out and criticizing it stylistically?
>People always have to bring things back to women's appearances, though, even when women are doing things that have nothing to do with being sexy.
Your premise is that this is disturbing because women always have their endeavors reduced to their looks. So is it disturbing that the best chess player in the world has been featured on /r/ladyboners dozens of times? Or is it possible that attractive people can be found attractive in just about any setting, and are then featured on subs specifically intended to highlight attractive people.