Drama over /r/sex post "Does gay sex make you gay?" (np.reddit.com)
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92 comments submitted at 14:23:41 on Apr 23, 2014 by potato1
Drama over /r/sex post "Does gay sex make you gay?" (np.reddit.com)
SubredditDrama
47 ups - 25 downs = 22 votes
92 comments submitted at 14:23:41 on Apr 23, 2014 by potato1
If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck...
It's not the sex part that does it, it's the fact that you were attracted enough to a member of the same sex to have sex with them that means that you're either bisexual or have homosexual tendencies.
I don't think one experimental encounter decides your sexual orientation. Some people just need to try different stuff out before they know where they fall.
Do you feel the same way about women who experiment when they're young and identify as straight?
Yeah, I do. I think that in order to "experiment" there's got to be some attraction there which at the very least means they are bi.
I see. I believe sexuality can be more fluid than that.
I don't.
I think you're either straight, gay, or bi. There's no "fluid" about it. You're not moving back and forth between being gay and straight. At that point you're bi, you may just prefer one sex over the other.
See, I think sexuality is somewhat like colors. If straight is blue, and gay is yellow, then green is bi, but not every shade between blue and yellow is green and not everything between straight and gay is automatically bi.
I'm not sure that made sense.
The color comparison made sense but the idea behind it doesn't.
You can't be a little bi or a little gay, if you're sexually attracted to both sexes you're bi, even if you're only attracted to one person who happens to be the same sex as you. You're still bi.
I my mind everything else is just trying to make excuses to yourself to defend behavior you may not agree with.
But where then is the line. If straight requires 100% all the time never once thought any person of the same sex was attractive and gay is the same, then most everyone would likely be bi. If the line is actually having sex with someone of the same/opposite sex a lot of people who are bi wouldn't get qualified.
It's just a lot harder to pin down than people accept. Truthfully the person most and maybe the only person qualified to figure out your orientation is yourself.
> If straight requires 100% all the time never once thought any person of the same sex was attractive and gay is the same, then most everyone would likely be bi.
It isn't complicated at all.
Heterosexuality requires exclusive attraction to the opposite sex. Homosexuality requires exclusive attraction to the same sex.
If you have any level of attraction to both sexes, you are bisexual.
If you are a dude and you have ever once thought that under the right circumstances and enough alcohol you might let Brad Pitt blow you just to see what it was like, you are not straight. And there is nothing wrong with that. The current paranoia regarding bisexuality is ridiculous.
So 99% of the population is bi?
It's not a binary men yes/no, women yes/no for most people. It's fine to be straight, open to try something not straight once then go back to being straight because it isn't for you.
It's also fine to be straight and 99.7% of cases and still call yourself straight. And vice versa. I think bi is (and probably should be) a more associated with people where gender isn't a primary barrier to sex or relationships.
You could say there's only two people in the world of the same/opposite sex that you would consider, that doesn't make you bisexual (unless you consider yourself that).
The only reason the idea behind it doesn't is because you're attached to using the labels, which some people might not feel fit them at all. If you take away the words "gay", "straight", and "bi", then /u/SteampunkWolf's comparison works much better, and someone who is only attracted to one person of the same gender ever is, like, aqua, as opposed to just green.
I'm bi, but I know two women who identify as straight who have fooled around with women when they were younger because they wanted to have some fun, they felt safe, and they liked sex. Both of them are open about their experiences, they're not trying to make excuses by identifying as straight. It just better fits their orientation, because on /u/SteampunkWolf's spectrum, they're pretty blue.
What if it is a girl in a man's body or vice versa? Is sexuality completely physical?
> Is sexuality completely physical?
As far as I'm concerned it is.
do you have a single fact to back that up?
I think you're using sexual orientation to describe acts rather than attraction. It's like saying that if I tried going to church for a while I'm no longer allowed to call myself an atheist.
This is bullshit - you're oversimplifying a complex situation to the point of no longer adding anything to the discussion.
I happen to think that it isn't a complex situation at all. You are either gay, straight, or bi with no shades in between.
Seems pretty simple to me.
it's copypasta lol