23 f, not sure how to improve my looks. please help (self.amiugly)

{amiugly}

19 ups - 17 downs = 2 votes

throwaway account, two pics of me here

i think i'm very plain and not attractive, i would love to know what other people think and i would like advice on how to better my appearance. thank you.

50 comments submitted at 11:27:26 on Feb 26, 2013 by [deleted]

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  • brutallycandid
  • 4 Points
  • 03:42:21, 27 February

Ur hawt!!

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  • not_very_happy
  • 10 Points
  • 11:43:52, 26 February

id say lose a few lbs....get an updated hairstyle....head over to mac makeup and spend 50 bucks on some makeup because when you do that you're entitled to a free sit down make up session with an artist. she'll help get you dialed in on what looks good on you.

you have a great starting point

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 12 Points
  • 08:06:10, 27 February

i appreciate your input. and thank you for being nice about it. however:

This is actually a picture of me, that someone who has been stalking me for a while has posted in order to "hurt my feelings" although I think it is nice of you to give me some great feed back, these pictures are a year old, and I have since lost weight and cut my hair. If you would kindly report this I would appreciate it

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  • MovementInStillLife
  • 2 Points
  • 11:50:20, 26 February

Why are you not very happy?

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  • rageth
  • 5 Points
  • 19:09:40, 26 February

Because people keep asking him why he isn't happy :(

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 11 Points
  • 08:06:33, 27 February

Hello everyone! This is actually a picture of me, that someone who has been stalking me for a while has posted in order to "hurt my feelings" although I think it is nice of you to give me some great feed back, these pictures are a year old, and I have since lost weight and cut my hair. If you would kindly report this I would appreciate it

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  • old-perv
  • 3 Points
  • 13:22:19, 27 February

Since the best revenge is living well, show us how you look now.

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 14 Points
  • 14:22:52, 27 February

your username makes me a little wary... but for the sake of both living well and proving that this post really is about me, here is a before and after of my hair cut & weight loss :) this was taken about two months ago , right before I moved out of the country.

what I really look like

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  • mikemaca
  • 5 Points
  • 16:54:38, 27 February

Well, you look great.

Pretty obvious now that that crazy girl is just super jealous of you.

Living well is the best revenge indeed!

PS You are also much better at spelling and punctuation than she is, so there's that as well!

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 4 Points
  • 16:58:43, 27 February

Ah yes I would have to agree, and thank you!

edit: I also have to agree about your PS! :)

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  • diadexus
  • 3 Points
  • 20:18:03, 27 February

Holy crap, you look great!! Congratulations, and many negative karmas to the person that posted this to try to hurt your feelings.

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 0 Points
  • 21:55:11, 27 February

Thank you :)

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  • old-perv
  • 5 Points
  • 14:35:34, 27 February

Winning!

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 3 Points
  • 14:37:57, 27 February

lol thank you :)

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 5 Points
  • 14:41:28, 27 February

I'd have to say I'm really not mad, actually whoever did this ended up causing the opposite effect. its nice to know that peoples views of a picture from when I was over weight, stressed out over my husbands potential deployment, sick, and had no makeup on after a full day at a ball tournament in 90 degree weather, people still all said that i just needed to lose weight, cut my hair, and put on some makeup. Done! a long time ago! lol :)

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  • [deleted]
  • -10 Points
  • 00:32:42, 27 February

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  • not_very_happy
  • 2 Points
  • 03:21:11, 27 February

i know its kind of a shitty answer but you might need to try different things with your hair...

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  • MovementInStillLife
  • 5 Points
  • 11:50:10, 26 February

Couple of things that strike out for me:

  • I feel your hairstyle is outdated, and certainly makes you look older than you are.

  • The first photo, the clothing accentuates your figure - hoodies should be avoided at all costs me thinks. While I am male I suffer a similar issue.

Personally I would like to see a more feminine you, and that might mean seeing you in some makeup - thats just me though. What do you look like when you head out on the night in the town?

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 5 Points
  • 08:07:27, 27 February

Hello everyone! This is actually a picture of me, that someone who has been stalking me for a while has posted in order to "hurt my feelings" although I think it is nice of you to give me some great feed back, these pictures are a year old, and I have since lost weight and cut my hair. If you would kindly report this I would appreciate it

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  • [deleted]
  • -9 Points
  • 00:31:38, 27 February

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 9 Points
  • 08:06:52, 27 February

Hello everyone! This is actually a picture of me, that someone who has been stalking me for a while has posted in order to "hurt my feelings" although I think it is nice of you to give me some great feed back, these pictures are a year old, and I have since lost weight and cut my hair. If you would kindly report this I would appreciate it

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  • mikemaca
  • 2 Points
  • 01:10:38, 27 February

You are much more attractive in these photos.

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  • bryandenny71
  • 3 Points
  • 01:18:05, 27 February

Lose 20 lbs. Cut hair shorter.....maybe color it. Wear makeup. It will do wonders to your confidence.

You have a LOT of potential.

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 8 Points
  • 15:58:02, 27 February

i appreciate your input. and thank you for being nice about it. however: This is actually a picture of me, that someone who has been stalking me for a while has posted in order to "hurt my feelings" although I think it is nice of you to give me some great feed back, these pictures are a year old, and I have since lost weight and cut my hair. If you would kindly report this I would appreciate it I have posted current pictures in the comment section for both proof that I no longer look like that, and that I am who I say I am

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  • bryandenny71
  • 4 Points
  • 16:23:37, 27 February

Wow! You look great!! Great job! Sorry about the stalker. That's no joke! Report it if you know who it is!

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 8 Points
  • 16:31:39, 27 February

Thanks! And that's ok, some people, are just a little crazy! Lol. I have both reported and sent messages to moderators about the user, along with messages from her real account in hopes that both accounts will be banned. :)

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  • well_sheeeeet
  • 2 Points
  • 18:44:45, 26 February

Definitely need an updated hairstyle. If you can, try and drop 10 pounds, it'll bring out your facial features more.

You have a nice pearl shaped face though, it could be very attractive with a little weight drop!

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 8 Points
  • 08:07:39, 27 February

Hello everyone! This is actually a picture of me, that someone who has been stalking me for a while has posted in order to "hurt my feelings" although I think it is nice of you to give me some great feed back, these pictures are a year old, and I have since lost weight and cut my hair. If you would kindly report this I would appreciate it

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  • old-perv
  • 2 Points
  • 21:08:35, 26 February

Not ugly. You have a pretty face. Lose the braid, lose the weight.

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 4 Points
  • 08:09:45, 27 February

Hello everyone! This is actually a picture of me, that someone who has been stalking me for a while has posted in order to "hurt my feelings" although I think it is nice of you to give me some great feed back, these pictures are a year old, and I have since lost weight and cut my hair. If you would kindly report this I would appreciate it

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  • katzenjammer_
  • 2 Points
  • 18:04:23, 26 February

your eyes look small and your forehead huge. eye makeup and new hairdo, lose 20 pounds.

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 6 Points
  • 08:07:46, 27 February

Hello everyone! This is actually a picture of me, that someone who has been stalking me for a while has posted in order to "hurt my feelings" although I think it is nice of you to give me some great feed back, these pictures are a year old, and I have since lost weight and cut my hair. If you would kindly report this I would appreciate it

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  • Poop_Land_420
  • 1 Points
  • 15:23:41, 26 February

Lose weight, get make up, and get a better hair style and you should be fine.

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  • antidelusion
  • 0 Points
  • 15:38:26, 26 February

Eat less and exercise

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 2 Points
  • 08:09:51, 27 February

Hello everyone! This is actually a picture of me, that someone who has been stalking me for a while has posted in order to "hurt my feelings" although I think it is nice of you to give me some great feed back, these pictures are a year old, and I have since lost weight and cut my hair. If you would kindly report this I would appreciate it

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  • doppelmoppel
  • 0 Points
  • 19:03:15, 26 February

I think a lighter or more vibrant coloured hair would suit you. Maybe a deep auburn or a reddish caramel. Your complexion looks very nice. A bit of blush and mascara would make it look more fresh. Your eyebrows need to be shaped because now they are too straight and give you a surprised, sad look. Bettergo to a salon than do it yourself.

Please do not style your hair likethat, it is not flattering. Consider a shoulder lenghtthat you could leave down instead of pinning it up.

You are not nonattractive, you have potential.

It seems to me your bra is ill fitting and it makes your chest look droopy.. Go to r/abrathatfits.

Don`t wear hoodies, they make you look like you have nowaist. Same with the top in the other picture. If i am guessing right and its one of those that has an elastic at the bottom, or anywhere below your natural waist - throw it in the fire. Try to go for tailored, waist defining clothes. Iwould navigate towards loose shirts plus A line skirts. Something like http://farm8.staticflickr.com/7078/717731395933aa2c0632z.jpg. come over to r/femalefashionadvice

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 7 Points
  • 08:08:26, 27 February

Hello everyone! This is actually a picture of me, that someone who has been stalking me for a while has posted in order to "hurt my feelings" although I think it is nice of you to give me some great feed back, these pictures are a year old, and I have since lost weight and cut my hair. If you would kindly report this I would appreciate it

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  • doppelmoppel
  • 4 Points
  • 09:12:34, 27 February

Seriously? What a douche. This petty gesture shows his ugliness.

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 6 Points
  • 09:38:15, 27 February

Ya it's shitty. An the person is a she. So even worse really in my opinion. But hey nothing said here hurt y feelings, especially since these pics are so old. But my favorite part is where someone asked for pictures of me with makeup on and she posted two recent pictures of me and then when the response to those was that I looked a lot better, she said "ya I used filters to make myself look good lol" one had an Instagram filter and one did not. I was just tan in the unedited one. What makes me mad is that my husband and UNDERAGED brother and sister are in these pics, but she had enough brain activity going on up there to edit their faces at least

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 6 Points
  • 16:01:41, 27 February

And this is a different picture from that day as both proof that I am who I say I am, and that my bra was properly fitted lol.

here it is

And here Is a current picture of me proving that these are old pictures

here

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  • bravo90
  • 0 Points
  • 19:03:59, 26 February

stop braiding your hair it doesn't suit you and thin it out and wear it down and natural

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  • mikemaca
  • 0 Points
  • 01:09:45, 27 February

Weightloss, a different hair approach, makeup and fashion would benefit you and you'd probably be cute.

Right now you look like a girl I know who spends all her time out in the country raising horses and can't be bothered with relationships.

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 1 Points
  • 08:09:29, 27 February

Hello everyone! This is actually a picture of me, that someone who has been stalking me for a while has posted in order to "hurt my feelings" although I think it is nice of you to give me some great feed back, these pictures are a year old, and I have since lost weight and cut my hair. If you would kindly report this I would appreciate it

that being said i am a country girl, however i am married so other than he relationship with my husband you are right lol

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  • mikemaca
  • 1 Points
  • 12:58:43, 27 February

Wow, thanks, how on earth did you even find the thread?

There's a bunch of these threads that seem to me to be posted by enemies of the person, usually though they are a lot more obvious - looks like your stalker is pretty good at what he does.

Sorry about it anyway, I'll report it, and others can as well.

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 4 Points
  • 14:18:49, 27 February

the account that posted it messaged me and said "hi" and i didnt really know why so ignored it, but then they messaged me and said "it looks like i need to lose some weight, what do you think?" i was still confused, but then i looked at the accounts post history and surprise surprise there was my face... lol but thank you for reporting, i really appreciate it!

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 4 Points
  • 14:32:41, 27 February

here are the messages I was sent

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  • mikemaca
  • 3 Points
  • 16:52:59, 27 February

Wow, that girl is totally nuts. Well don't let her bother you, it looks like you are handling this better than I would!

Also what she is doing is totally unacceptable. She has some serious mental issues obviously. Pity her or ignore her, but don't let her get to you.

Sending lots of positive vibes.

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 3 Points
  • 16:57:19, 27 February

Thanks!

At first, when all I kept reading was that I needed to make a lot of changes (even though I already had) ill admit I was a tiny bit upset. But then I realized that, like I said, that was one of the worst days I had ever had, (in the picture) and if all people had to say was that I had needed to loose a little weight, and cut my hair, then I was probably doing pretty good. Lol

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  • chocolatetugboat1
  • 0 Points
  • 03:23:27, 27 February

Shave your head.

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  • FidelCastrator
  • -4 Points
  • 01:14:01, 27 February

yeah nothing really you can do 5/10

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  • [deleted]
  • -8 Points
  • 08:23:59, 27 February

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  • Live_From_Japan
  • 8 Points
  • 08:37:10, 27 February

if someone thinks this is not true i can post plenty of my own pictures for proof.