I'm alone and miserable on Valentine's Day - AMA (self.casualiama)

{casualiama}

8 ups - 22 downs = 0 votes

I tried to make plans with friends and so far nothing's come through and doesn't look likely.

I hate this holiday and everything related to it. It makes me feel like a miserable shit each time and I'm never better for it. If I could remove one holiday, it's Valentine's day.

47 comments submitted at 20:03:10 on Feb 14, 2014 by JTHipster

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  • ghostoftalleyho
  • 21 Points
  • 20:51:42, 5 March

LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL.

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  • blazin_
  • 6 Points
  • 23:43:45, 5 March

I concur. LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL.

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  • JTHipster
  • -14 Points
  • 21:37:38, 5 March

U mad tho

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  • lowerthanthemud
  • 8 Points
  • 23:11:09, 5 March

He said "LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL" which doesn't seem like anger to me. From what I've come to understand, LOL is generally associated with laughter not anger. Valentines day is one of the worst holidays, I agree with you on that and I'm sure most of TRP agrees as well. The difference is that TRP will choose to not celebrate Valentines day, not cry because we can't have a date. Everything you say in your posts ITT is pathetic to me. "Met a rad girl, she has a boyfriend" ha... totally rad...

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  • kearvelli
  • 1 Points
  • 00:27:46, 6 March

LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL

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  • coffee_parade
  • 8 Points
  • 22:22:32, 5 March

Loser

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  • sjaminei
  • 6 Points
  • 20:07:37, 14 February

Why are you miserable? Go get some booze/drugs and get happy! You can make new friends ;)

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  • JTHipster
  • -10 Points
  • 20:18:53, 14 February

Met a really rad girl, she has a boyfriend. All my plans fell through for today (including go to the bar), so I feel bad from that because I was actually looking forward to going out to a bar with friends tonight.

I'm just very lonely, even though I talk to people. It's not really a lot of genuine friendships, and mostly because those haven't been built yet, but doesn't really help the lonelyache. Other stuff on top of that, but that's what's happening immediately.

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  • sjaminei
  • 2 Points
  • 20:34:03, 14 February

Go to the fucking bar and get drunk. You won't regret it, unless you get pissed ;)

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  • ArttuH5N1
  • 1 Points
  • 20:54:07, 14 February

I don't know man. Going to a bar alone is horrible IMO. I wouldn't recommend it to people who are nearly as shy as me. But if OP is even a bit confident, then it might just be the wise thing to do.

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  • JTHipster
  • -3 Points
  • 20:57:01, 14 February

I'm confident when I'm not miserable. I dunno, fuck it, I'll clean my room and head out at like...10 or so. Seems like a reasonable time.

Worst case I'll chat it up with the bartender.

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  • ArttuH5N1
  • 1 Points
  • 21:06:29, 14 February

Right on! You make a great point. What's the worst that could happen? Best case, you'll find the things you're looking for. (Some company, maybe a nice girl, who knows.) Worst case? You don't And what have you lost, if the "worst" happens? Nothing.

I'm genuinely happy for you.

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  • JTHipster
  • -3 Points
  • 21:13:09, 14 February

Well I'd lose about 30 dollars in a bar tab and gain some weight from the beer. But I can manage that.

Also the gym is closed here so I feel terrible because I was starting back up my workout schedule again.

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  • diablorayliotta
  • 2 Points
  • 23:43:47, 5 March

Check out r/TheRedPill it can really help you out

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  • LinkFixerBotSnr
  • 1 Points
  • 23:44:07, 5 March

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  • vikingpenguin
  • 1 Points
  • 20:46:14, 14 February

Go to the bar anyway. I heard single girls will be especially receptive tonight.

Are you going to buy all the discounted chocolate tomorrow?

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  • JTHipster
  • 0 Points
  • 20:55:10, 14 February

No, I've grown to like sweets less and less. And I probably will. I just don't like going places alone, makes me feel like a creeper.

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  • vikingpenguin
  • 1 Points
  • 19:11:14, 18 February

Follow up! Did you end up going out?

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  • JTHipster
  • 0 Points
  • 20:10:41, 18 February

Yep. It was okay.

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  • diablorayliotta
  • 9 Points
  • 23:43:30, 5 March

Listen man, check out r/TheRedPill it can really help you out

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  • LinkFixerBotSnr
  • 3 Points
  • 23:44:18, 5 March

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  • supergauntlet
  • 4 Points
  • 02:16:34, 6 March

yeah he's real likely to do that when a bunch of people are here downvoting him and calling him a loser from there

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  • TheRedEnema
  • -1 Points
  • 02:34:22, 6 March

As a recent medical school graduate, I can say that given this severe a case of beta, the OP is going to need something that will enter his system much more quickly.

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  • Homsar98
  • 5 Points
  • 20:05:55, 14 February

Remember it's not a real holiday. It's just a way for companies to sell shit loads of chocolate and flowers. Also what is your favourite colour?

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  • JTHipster
  • -3 Points
  • 20:22:38, 14 February

Oh god no fuck that entire part of it. I don't like it, it's fake. That's not what it's about.

I like giving gifts to people, and I honestly like going out and doing stuff even if there's no point to it. Having one day of the year that says "today is a day you should do something romantic" is cheap. It's hollow, it takes a moment that could be wonderful and makes it manufactured, and that's the opposite of how I want to live or how I want to treat other people. To me, it's the anti-life, it and everything else like it.

And my favorite color is lavender. I was told I look good in it.

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  • reichenbacchus
  • 2 Points
  • 20:09:44, 14 February

I think it is an overrated marketing scheme. Be happy that you are not giving into it! Besides, if you had plans then who would I be talking to on reddit right now? Also, I second Homsar98. What is your favorite color? I like turquoise.

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  • JTHipster
  • -4 Points
  • 20:25:59, 14 February

Like I said to him, lavender. And I'm actually not a fan of talking online. I don't know anything about you. How can what we say really have any significance if I don't understand where it comes from?

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  • reichenbacchus
  • 1 Points
  • 21:15:39, 14 February

A kind comment at random can be more significant the a shallow relationship in person. Just saying~

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  • JTHipster
  • -4 Points
  • 21:18:29, 14 February

Mmmm. Perhaps. I tend not to have shallow anything, though, or at least I don't enjoy it. I don't understand the desire for just having people to say sweet nothings to.

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  • DesertSeahawk
  • 1 Points
  • 21:29:34, 5 March

Lonely on Valentines Day? That's the easiest day to get laid. The bar is a veritable smorgasbord of women. I guess it's an animal mindset, that of an alpha vs a beta.

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  • JTHipster
  • -8 Points
  • 21:37:27, 5 March

Lol.

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  • DesertSeahawk
  • 2 Points
  • 21:49:14, 5 March

I assume you think I'm being sarcastic. I am not. It's like shooting fish in a barrel.

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  • JTHipster
  • -7 Points
  • 21:53:49, 5 March

Sorry I was choking myself and jerkin it to horse porn.

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  • DesertSeahawk
  • 3 Points
  • 22:41:30, 5 March

Whatever suits you man.

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  • JTHipster
  • -6 Points
  • 22:47:06, 5 March

Personally, I only like to fuck people who match my alpha status, which is why I exclusively sleep with men. Two muscled, oily men are the only way to naturally express our dominant natures in unison. A woman can just never match that for me.

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  • DesertSeahawk
  • 2 Points
  • 23:49:06, 5 March

Again, not here to judge, but I'd rather meet a new girl than be alone on valentines day. This, in direct contrast to meeting a "rad girl with a boyfriend".

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  • hama-girl
  • 1 Points
  • 20:19:13, 14 February

Valentine's is totally stupid consumerism crap.

I hate it- and I'm actually in a relationship! Having an obligatory romantic evening takes every iota of the romance out of it- if it's forced, then it's not real.

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  • JJKeys
  • 0 Points
  • 20:27:49, 14 February

Join the club

What you listening to at the moment?

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  • kingtut-21
  • 0 Points
  • 22:59:55, 14 February

Same here man. I just got broken up with too. Feels bad.

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  • JTHipster
  • -2 Points
  • 23:00:59, 14 February

Oh dude like right now? That's rough.

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  • kingtut-21
  • 1 Points
  • 23:04:26, 14 February

Yep. Home alone on Valentines after your girlfriend of over 1 and a 1/2 years breaks up with you and all of your friends are out or busy. It blows.

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  • JTHipster
  • -2 Points
  • 23:07:34, 14 February

Jesus. Most I can offer is my sympathies, or if you're by Cincinnatti I'll take you out for a drink or two. That's rough man.

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  • kingtut-21
  • 1 Points
  • 23:14:32, 14 February

Well I don't want to bum you out since this is your AMA. At least you're not the only one feeling down today.

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  • JTHipster
  • -3 Points
  • 23:17:44, 14 February

Nah man it's fine, I just want to talk to people.

The vast majority of the conversations I have these days are people complaining about their professor, or jobs, or sports, and I can't possibly care. No substance.

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  • kingtut-21
  • 1 Points
  • 23:31:33, 14 February

Yah I know what you mean. Well I just finished watching the Usual Suspects. It had kind of a mind fuck ending which made me happy. Would recommend watching if you have Netflix

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  • JTHipster
  • -4 Points
  • 23:33:16, 14 February

I do, and I'll have to watch it, maybe tomorrow. If you're feeling bad, listen to some Amanda Palmer. She's pretty rad. And I'd also recommend watching Super Troopers again.

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  • kingtut-21
  • 1 Points
  • 23:38:38, 14 February

Love that movie. And it's not a bad idea. Thanks for the tip. I think I am gonna start watching it right now.