Wife[35f] and I[35m] have had an open marriage for 2 years now my wife wants to close it (self.relationships)
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Wife and I have been married for 10 years together for 16. When we started dating I was her first and I had two other partners before her. Later in our marriage wife expressed to me that it was unfair and she wanted to have other experiences too. It started coming up as a joke and eventually the conversation would be coming up more and more.
Wife told me she felt like she was missing out on life experiences, it was becoming a bigger desire for her. I didn't want a divorce so we opened up our relationship. Well advice to any of you guys that are openining up your relationship the woman has a much easier time finding partners than you do. We had some ground rules that we had to be honest with each other the whole way through, check up on each other, and always use protection.
Well I can't say the first couple times when my wife was out and she texted me "are you okay with me doing this," I felt too good about it. The feeling of abandonment hit pretty hard but I learned to cope with it. I did tell my wife how I felt about the whole thing, but she would guilt me really hard for feeling the way I did.
Recently I started getting with this other girl 19[f]. I started hanging out with her a good bit but made sure I had my wife's approval. Being with her when my wife was out with other guys definitely made the pain much easier to handle and in fact I'd completely forget about what my wife was doing when I was out with her.
Wife ended up finding my gf on Facebook, and now she wants to close up the marriage. I talked to her about it and she said I think we both have had enough fun. I got really upset with her and brought up the fact that she has been with 11 dudes while I have been with 2(including the new girl). We ended up arguging for a while, and she admitted that she is threatend by the girl I am with because she is so attractive. I told her that I got over her being with other guys so she needs to get over this girl.
Since then wife has stopped going out and cries when I am out with my new girl. She has also tried to be more pleasant and do more chores around the house in hopes that I end up leaving my new girl. To add to that, she has tried to use sex as a tool to keep me from going out with my plans. When I am supposed to hang out she will tempt me to stay. The "Special Sex" we reserve for special occassions is offered whenever now.
In all honesty, I felt like I finally found a way to cope with the open relationship part and I did my best to be mature about it. Now when I finally found someone else, my wife wants to end it. I am starting to get the feeling that this was never meant to be an open relationship but it was more so her pass to fuck other guys and she didn't think I could get an attractive girl myself. The first girl I was with during the open relationship we had sex 2 times that was it. The second girl (the one I am with now) is the only one that I had regular sex wtih.
Wife and I both expressed we don't want a divorce. I don't want to give up on my gf either. Wife really wants me to stop seeing other girl.
tl-dr- I was my wife's first. I had other partners though. Wife wanted to open up marriage, she slept with 11 guys. I find myself an attractive girl, now she wants to close the marriage because she fears she is going to lose me to her.
408 comments submitted at 18:18:06 on Nov 4, 2013 by throwddddddd