"Trust me...21 today is a young boy. A very young boy. :( sincerely, a frustrated 22 year old woman" (np.reddit.com)
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352 comments submitted at 14:01:50 on Feb 18, 2014 by david-me
"Trust me...21 today is a young boy. A very young boy. :( sincerely, a frustrated 22 year old woman" (np.reddit.com)
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352 comments submitted at 14:01:50 on Feb 18, 2014 by david-me
Wow, a lot of backlash, but I do understand what she means.
I'm a 22-year-old and the last two guys I've dated were 21...and let's just say I will not be doing that again.
You realize that the distinction between 22 and 21 is laughable to someone in their late 30s, right? I mean, when you're 38 you're probably going to cringe over what you just wrote.
I definitely won't cringe, because I definitely don't want to date 21-year-olds.
Not to say, when I'm 28, that I would never date a 27-year-old or even a 25-year-old.
The maturity level and attitude I'm looking for isn't as prevalent in 21-year-old guys. They're in college, have all the freedom in the world, so I understand. Doesn't mean I want to get all involved in that again.
However much more mature you perceive yourself to be compared to guys your age, let's be clear on this: YOU'RE NOT.
The point others are trying to make to you is that once you're over 30 you will look back on yourself now and be able to realize how utterly immature you were.
Am I as mature as I will be when I'm 30, no.
Am I more mature than most 21-year-olds that I know, yes. Just like I was more mature than most 18-year-olds when I was 19.
You don't know me.
> Am I more mature than most 21-year-olds that I know, yes. Just like I was more mature than most 18-year-olds when I was 19.
As a rule, anyone saying this on the internet is obviously mistaken. You may be one of the omgsupermature people who reads SRD (a forum dedicated to pettiness) but I doubt it.
I have to agree with the other commenters... you're probably gonna look back on 22-year-old kittybravo in eight years and laugh at how remarkably stuck up you sound.
I definitely will look back and laugh at myself -- just like when I think of all the dumb things I did/thought when I was 18. But I still know, four years later, I was definitely more mature than a lot of the people I was in college with. And that was really because I just had a lot more responsibility than a majority of college kids.
I just think forgoing to date 21-year-olds who are in college won't be one of the things I laugh at.
OK, cool cool. I doubt we're gonna make much progress here so I'll spell this out a little better:
A LOT of young people think they're "mature for their age." It's almost always a lie that they're telling themselves. Odds are extremely good that you're less mature than you're telling yourself, and those 21-year-old guys are probably closer in maturity to you than you're willing to believe.
That's why people are jumping down the throat of the person OP linked, and that's why people are taking issue with what you say here. It's because we remember being you, and (having put on a few years) realize that we were wrong-wr-wrongwrongwrong.
That's exactly what I was going to say. I remember being like this when I was a youngin'
Ok. The fact of the matter is that you don't know me or my life, so you just assuming that I'm not as mature as I believe myself to be, doesn't make you right.
I haven't said that I'm as mature as 30-year-old or whatever age, for a reason.
Correct, I'm basing all this on odds. And the odds are high that I (and other commenters) are right.
I mean, c'mon, right now you're arguing with a guy on the internet about your maturity level.
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Everyone thinks that. I thought the same thing ten years ago. It's cute, when it's not tragic.
Gotcha. I didn't realize that being condescending meant that you're older than me and therefore more mature.
The two are, by no mean, mutually exclusive.
Superiority complex. You'll be lucky to be dating anyone worthwhile with that attitude.
Oh god, I'm not going to list off why I was more mature than most people my age. But seriously, being condescending and judgmental really are unbecoming.
First of all, this is SRD. You wouldn't be here if you weren't judgemental.
Second of all, I already listed the one reason for you.
I'm really not though. It's just a nice way to get introduced to different subs. I don't think I've ever commented on a thread in here before.
Btw, I really like how you cemented my point of you being judgmental, by making the assumption that I'm a certain way, just because I'm commenting on something where I wanted to kinda be the devil's advocate.
People can downvote all they want, but I'm pretty secure in the fact that I know what type of guys I want to date. It's a learning experience.
I didn't deny being judgemental, so I don't see how you're trying to hold that against me.
I really like how you cemented the view that you're backpedaling, not to mention inept. There's a difference between "the type of guy I want to date is more mature" and "I'm a snotty superior to all my peers."
> But seriously, being condescending and judgmental really are unbecoming.
Hm, I wonder who else in this thread is condescending and judgmental...
I don't really think I'm being either. Stereotyping? Yeah. But is it really that ridiculous of me to not want to date 21-year-olds who are in college when I'm 22 and done with college?