My boyfriend likes pictures of girls on Facebook all the time and I pretend to be ok with it but I'm not. (self.offmychest)
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I have an amazing, loving boyfriend I'm happy with but this one thing that makes me feel so bad is that every time I log into Facebook, my entire newsfeed is pictures of girls that he's liked or commented on.
It's his friends, random girls from different pages, acquaintances, celebrities... mostly liking them but occasionally commenting on how beautiful they are. No comments are overtly sexual, but it can really hurt and it makes me feel as if I'm less special to him if he calls every girl out there beautiful. Sometimes, after he's added a girl as a friend, he'd go through all of her profile pictures and like every single one EXCEPT the ones with her boyfriend or male friends in them. And then I'd get this flood of pictures of the same girl on my newsfeed. It makes me feel like shit sometimes.
We talked about it before and I said it wasn't an issue because at the time it really wasn't at all, but I had no clue how much of it I'd be seeing and how much it could hurt me. However, I would never tell him to stop because I feel that would be too controlling and that I have no right to dictate what he does, just like I wouldn't like to have it done to myself.
Also, I noticed a trend in the girls he likes - they all have things in common... and I also don't look anything like that. In fact, I'm the polar opposite.
He says I'm the most beautiful girl in the world to him, but sometimes I think he's just saying it because he feels it's something one should say in a relationship.
I can't help it. I know it's lame and makes me a bad girlfriend to have these feelings of insecurity, but no matter what I tell myself, it breaks my heart and I compare myself to these girls every day.
Not really looking for advice, just to get this off my chest and hope that I'm not the only one feeling this way.
Thank you for reading.
132 comments submitted at 14:03:20 on Aug 6, 2013 by throwaway76534345