Hey, at least she was completely honest... (self.OkCupid)
5 ups - 1 downs = 4 votes
Backstory: I had a great chat with a girl about a week ago. I noticed she had hand-made Legend of Zelda earrings on in one of her profile pictures, so that was a nice icebreaker to talk about. We chat for an hour, and really hit it off, and she gives me her number and we make plans to get together Thursday night.
So we have a really fun time at this local barcade, as we discussed WiiU third party support, Xbox Live Arcade games, and various other video game related topics. We even played NES Tetris together for about 45 minutes. As we left, she told me with a big smile on her face "We should do this again sometime!" It was really crappy outside, and she had a 25 minute drive home. After I got home, I texted her, saying I had a lot of fun, and I hope she got home safely. She responded abotu 5 minutes later saying "Yep, I'm home now, safe and sound. I had fun, we'll hafta hang again soon. Have a good weekend, too!"
So on Saturday, I text her with a link to that "puppy can't figure out stairs, so big dog shows her how" video, since I know she loves dogs. And also to see how her weekend was going. No response. I figure this girl is just a typical OKC Liar, who says one thing and means something completely different. I decide to text her again Monday night and straight up ask her out. No response.
About 30 minutes ago, this message from her shows up in my OKC inbox:
"Hey name redacted,
I noticed you'd texted me, but I was with friends and I don't text when I'm among other people, typically, as my attention is on them.
That is one of the many reasons why I don't give out my number so early, and why I hesitated before. Guys feel the need to fill in the gap with random things, sometimes, and I also don't think someone should use texting as a great form to get to know someone. Rare cases, does that work in anyone's favor.
I'm going to request that you delete my number from your phone, as I'm doing the same. I don't want hard feelings about this, I just want to be honest--I joined the site to use as a means to get to know someone and allow it to determine whether it is worth my time otherwise to attempt something. And I don't feel the texting helps, as I only really text people I know well.
Which brings me to my next point--I'm actually busy all this week and weekend, again, as I have some other obligations. And I was also thinking about meeting you and how I didn't feel anything other than friendship. I want that to be out in the open because I've tried the whole "maybe later" thing, and that just doesn't pan out. That's something I want you to consider before placing effort toward me, as I have a large social life I like to keep up. And I'd want to contact through here for a while before hanging again.
Feel free to give back your thoughts, but I'm open and honest about these things as I don't like confusion or false hope or anything close to the unclear."
So...I am thinking I dodged a bullet with this one. I messaged her back, saying I am not going to try and work for her friendship, and Good Luck.
67 comments submitted at 15:08:52 on Jan 15, 2013 by PercyChuggs