Whose team are we on anyway? (self.RedPillWomen)

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One of the risks of electronic communication is the tendency to hit send before thinking about what we write. It is an easy thing to go back and delete things written that we regret later. However in this case, I am not going to do so to make a point.

Last week a thread was begun asking what should be done if a high N woman is dating a man who may be considering marriage. How much should she tell. I was one if the commenters to advocate honesty, but I was rather Jesuitical about it.

And Manosphere blogger Donal Graeme called me out on it. http://donalgraeme.wordpress.com/2013/06/27/a-gross-indecency/

I will admit that I haven't read the whole thing. I didn't need to.

He asks a good question. Whose team are we playing for? If all our "strategies" only help Team Woman, are we any better than the PUAs using red pill knowledge to bang chicks?

We need to consider what is best for us. But we also need to consider what is best for the man in our life as well. That's what love is. Acting in the best interest of the beloved.

Based on that reminder I modify my own advice. Be fully honest with everyone. If it means risking losing them, so be it. Because to do otherwise is to deny them agency and respect. And how can you love a man you don't respect?

15 comments submitted at 14:12:02 on Jun 28, 2013 by The_Ringmistress

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  • danabanana9
  • 13 Points
  • 15:39:33, 28 June

i am on my husband's team. i feel zero kinship towards "women" and never have, they are my rivals and destroyers of the civilization i love. i tend to think of being a "red pill woman" as understanding that men are the gatekeepers to commitment and that relationships should be made as comfortable for MEN from the MALE perspective as possible if you actually WANT a harmonious relationship with a man. if you dont, go ride the carousel and live your life, have fun. the kind of man i want a relationship with wouldn't stick around for anything that wasn't basically centered around his needs primarily, and ive found i get a WHOLE lot in return by catering to them

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  • margerym
  • 3 Points
  • 16:42:31, 28 June

> i feel zero kinship towards "women" and never have,

Off-topic: this is true for me as well and yesterday I voiced to my husband that I wondered how many Red Pill women find themselves falling in this category.

EDIT: I went ahead and created a thread for this.

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  • veggie_girl
  • 2 Points
  • 18:42:22, 30 June

>the kind of man i want a relationship with wouldn't stick around for anything that wasn't basically centered around his needs primarily, and ive found i get a WHOLE lot in return by catering to them

This is exactly why redpill women are always the ones who run very successful businesses and feminists are the ones who end up bankrupt. You have to treat customers like you do a husband, in the manner you described.

Whether we like to admit it or not, men will always subconsciously view us as a commodity that they are paying for with commitment (and more). You can be best friends with your man and that will lessen the price of the exchange but don't make the mistake of turning him into a beta in the process. Only the strongest of men or most tactful of women can withstand being friends with their mate without losing sexual attraction in one direction or the other.